Women get jealous as hell
They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.
I am the sexiest of them all
Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men (like Princess Diana).
Am I fat
I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?
They always lie about shopping
They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.( even though the Chinese New Year sale just pass by)
What shoes are you wearing
If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.
Don't share secrets with them
If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeah when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.
They know when you are cheating
Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Girlz required to realise
We guys don't care if you talk to other guys.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
We don't care if a guy calls OR TEXTS you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 am that it can't wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open.
Take Advantage of the mood I'm in.
Let us pay for you!
Dont 'feel bad.
We enjoy doing it.
It's expected.
Smile and say "thank you".
Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.
You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's.
Or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up.
Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/'beautiful"
I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/stud/cutie/sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it either ; )
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change!
Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "I love you" ..and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
We don't care if a guy calls OR TEXTS you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 am that it can't wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open.
Take Advantage of the mood I'm in.
Let us pay for you!
Dont 'feel bad.
We enjoy doing it.
It's expected.
Smile and say "thank you".
Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.
You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's.
Or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up.
Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/'beautiful"
I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/stud/cutie/sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it either ; )
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change!
Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "I love you" ..and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
What should I Say?
Im writing this for the fact that im so miserable to one of my friend. Maybe its just me, feeling that way while the friend thinks it doesnt matter at all. Somehow, i have to admit that im very disturbed by my fault.
It may ruin our friendship. I guess.
We talked less than before. We used not more than 10 words in our messages and we no longer having laugh lines these days.
I didnt expect nor hoping this happened to me. I dont know how to explain. Im not changing, i dont have any problems, im okay.
Seriously, i dont know why.
Silence is the only choice i got now. So that i wont hurt anybody else or the friend, again.
It may ruin our friendship. I guess.
We talked less than before. We used not more than 10 words in our messages and we no longer having laugh lines these days.
I didnt expect nor hoping this happened to me. I dont know how to explain. Im not changing, i dont have any problems, im okay.
Seriously, i dont know why.
Silence is the only choice i got now. So that i wont hurt anybody else or the friend, again.
43 Things that A Girl wants us to know
1 When you break her heart, the pain never really goes away.
2 When she misses you, she's hurting inside.
3 When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
4 When she walks away from you mad, follow her.
5 When she stares at your mouth, kiss her.
6 When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don't let her go.
7 When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her.
8 When she ignores you, give her your attention.
9 When she pulls away, pull her back.
10 When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful.
11 When you see her crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
12 When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
13 When she's scared, protect her.
14 When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her.
15 When she steals your favourite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
16 When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
17 When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
18 When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth.
19 When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand.
20 When she grabs your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
21 When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
22 When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
23 When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does.
24 Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything.
25 Don't let her have the last word.
26 Don't call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is so much better.
27 Say you love her more than she could ever love you.
28 Argue that she is the best girl ever.
29 When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
30 When she says she's OK, don’t believe it, talk to
her about it, because 10 yrs later she'll still remember it.
31 Call her at 12:00am on special occasions to tell her you love her.
32 Call her before you sleep and after you wake up.
33 Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
34 Don't ignore her when she's out with you and your friends.
35 Stay up all night with her when she's sick.
36 Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid.
37 Let her into your world.
38 Let her wear your clothes.
39 When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
40 Let her know she's important.
41 Kiss her in the pouring rain.
42 When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"
43 After she reads this, she hopes one day you'd read it too.
2 When she misses you, she's hurting inside.
3 When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
4 When she walks away from you mad, follow her.
5 When she stares at your mouth, kiss her.
6 When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don't let her go.
7 When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her.
8 When she ignores you, give her your attention.
9 When she pulls away, pull her back.
10 When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful.
11 When you see her crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
12 When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
13 When she's scared, protect her.
14 When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her.
15 When she steals your favourite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
16 When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
17 When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
18 When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth.
19 When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand.
20 When she grabs your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
21 When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
22 When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
23 When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does.
24 Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything.
25 Don't let her have the last word.
26 Don't call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is so much better.
27 Say you love her more than she could ever love you.
28 Argue that she is the best girl ever.
29 When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
30 When she says she's OK, don’t believe it, talk to
her about it, because 10 yrs later she'll still remember it.
31 Call her at 12:00am on special occasions to tell her you love her.
32 Call her before you sleep and after you wake up.
33 Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
34 Don't ignore her when she's out with you and your friends.
35 Stay up all night with her when she's sick.
36 Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid.
37 Let her into your world.
38 Let her wear your clothes.
39 When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
40 Let her know she's important.
41 Kiss her in the pouring rain.
42 When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"
43 After she reads this, she hopes one day you'd read it too.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
No Boundaries
Seconds, hours, so many days
You know what you want, but long can you wait?
Every moment last forever
When you've lost your way.
What if my chances were already gone?
I started believing that I could be wrong
But you guve me one good reason
To fight and never walk away
So here I am, still holding on
With every step, you clim another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
There are no boundaries 2x
I fought to the limit, to stand on the edge
What if today is as good as it gets?
Don't know where the future's heading
But nothing's gonna bring me down
I've jumped every bridge and I've run every line
I risked being safe but I always knew why
I always knew why
So here I an, still holding on
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
You higher, you can go deeper
There are no boundaries above and beneath you
Break every rule cause' there's nothing between you
And your dreams
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
Yeah!
There are no boundaries
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
There are no boundaries x3
You know what you want, but long can you wait?
Every moment last forever
When you've lost your way.
What if my chances were already gone?
I started believing that I could be wrong
But you guve me one good reason
To fight and never walk away
So here I am, still holding on
With every step, you clim another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
There are no boundaries 2x
I fought to the limit, to stand on the edge
What if today is as good as it gets?
Don't know where the future's heading
But nothing's gonna bring me down
I've jumped every bridge and I've run every line
I risked being safe but I always knew why
I always knew why
So here I an, still holding on
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
You higher, you can go deeper
There are no boundaries above and beneath you
Break every rule cause' there's nothing between you
And your dreams
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
Yeah!
There are no boundaries
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
There are no boundaries x3
10 Ways to develop a high global business IQ
1. Be Comfortable with Change and Respond at Lightning Speed
Ask yourself this: can you embrace uncertainty and rise to the occasion? The world is shifting fast, and "speed rules," as a recent Fast Company article proclaims. Change is commonplace. You must be able to address any new inquiry and shift your company's resources (namely, you!) to accommodate it.
Peter Drucker, one of the best management minds of our time, declares, "One cannot manage change. One can only be ahead of it.” And as you create worldwide online connections, the need to be comfortable with change will become more acute.
2. Develop an All-Encompassing Perspective
You should be able to function well on both a small and large scale - to hone in on details, yet always comprehend the big picture, and keep pace with that picture as it changes. As Gary Hamel, author of "Leading The Revolution," puts it, "You are trying to find capabilities that transcend the traditional boundaries in an organization.”
One day you'll be trying to pin down just why Japanese women like the color pink and the next day you'll be sorting out how the drop in the peso will affect your latest acquisition in Mexico. You'll need to take in information, see its significance, and act on it.
3. Welcome New Experiences, Even Crises, for They Bring About a Positive Confrontation Between Different Perspectives.
Think of a crisis as a surprise. Even a relatively ordinary life will teach you that the world is full of them. When you welcome them, you are light-years ahead of those who have been trained to guard against them. As early as 1986, Lexicon Communication's President Steven Fink was taking the position that "a crisis is a turning point which offers as much opportunity as danger.”
These challenges - or opportunities, depending on how you view them - should be used to map out new directions for your creative energies. For example, as a global trader, you must always seek to improve yourself, your product, your business, and your world.
4. Adapt, Take Risks and Innovate
Adaptability means that, if you don't know how different markets operate, you find out - fast. You stay sensitive to the cultural values of other countries. And if things appear one way today and another tomorrow, you shift gears and work with conditions as you find them. Creating your strategy on your feet is the only way to do global business.
The more you risk, the greater your chances for success or failure, but either way, you're pushing your limits and extending your reach. There comes a point in every initiative when you must recognize the risks and move forward anyway. Remember, you learn the most from failure, so take what chances you can afford.
Keeping the mind fresh, fertile, and open to new perspectives - the prerequisites of innovation - is a must if you want to conduct business effectively worldwide. There are endless ways of opening your mind that you can get to work on right now. View as many web sites as humanly possible.
Beyond surfing the Net, take long walks in unfamiliar neighborhoods. See foreign films. Meet people in other professions. Join social groups that attract members of other nationalities. Don't withdraw when confronted with cultural differences - hang in there and ask yourself why you feel the way you do. This is real learning.
Give yourself a chance to discover your own unexamined values and assumptions, and you will find it a lot easier to accept others' unfamiliar way!
5. Travel to at Least One Foreign Country and Stay for Several Weeks - Preferably with a Native Family - and Desire to Return
Are you prepared to cultivate your international contacts? You better be for you cannot hide behind a great website or e-mail forever. Get on a plane, land yourself somewhere far from home, and teach yourself to adjust. Interact with the locals. Cultivate friendships. Watch, listen and learn. Ask a lot of questions. Live and breathe the environment. Do as the natives do. This is the best possible training for becoming a global businessperson.
6. Learn as Much as Possible About the Culture in Which You Are About to Do Business
Pay attention to etiquette, netiquette and protocol, and behave exactly as interpersonal situations dictate. One day you are a diplomat, the next a leader, and sometimes both. When your every move is subject to scrutiny, it's best to come equipped with the knowledge that will put you ahead of the game.
You can start by thinking about what makes you different from your next door neighbor. Then form the habit of doing the same thing on a citywide, nationwide, and worldwide scale. Try to understand how and why people from different ethnic and cultural backgrounds think and behave the way they do.
Assuming you don't have time for an extended foreign language course, visit a good brick-and-mortar or online store that specializes in cultural nuances. Two are Savvy Traveler and Rand McNally. Here, you can buy books and audio cassette tapes to help you learn about the economy, dress, language, cuisine, etiquette, and other vital statistics of just about any country in the world.
7. Maintain Passion, Enthusiasm, Playfulness and Curiosity
Show your business associates that you value every negotiation as if it is a matter of life or death. Let your e-mails communicate how intensely you care. Let them see that you are passionate about what you are building together, along with a healthy dose of enthusiasm. These traits are contagious and irresistible - they draw people to you no matter where in the world you are.
Want to fill yourself with passion and enthusiasm? Remember what it was like to be a kid? Spontaneous, free, not a care in the world? Want to bring it on now? Visit happypuppy or Hotwired's Animation Express. In your day-to-day dealings, let some of that powerful playfulness show. Use it carefully - there's obviously a time for play and a time for seriousness. Bringing a judicious helping of childlike joy and high good humor to your business communications can sometimes make or break an international deal.
Finally, show your eagerness to discover more, to do more, to push the limits of the known. You need curiosity to drive you in search of "more." Your passion, enthusiasm and playfulness need somewhere to go.
Take the next step, go the extra mile, and wonder what if, what's next, what's possible. Curiosity didn't kill the cat, and it won't kill you, either. It can only give you a bigger and better life.
8. Know Yourself Well Before You Present Yourself in the International Arena
In the article "All the Right Moves" (Fast Company, Issue 24, page 192), Anna Luoio talks about how chess is a game of thinking ahead, quickly and under pressure. Luoio proposes that the most important forms of intelligence - in chess and in life - are the ability to read other people and the ability to understand oneself.
Getting ready to undertake an online global business is a very similar game. You must know yourself well enough to anticipate how you will react in new and difficult circumstances. You must be able to exercise self-control. You must develop inner security by counting yourself as valuable apart from your successes or failures.
When you know yourself well, you are able to build connections with others by listening, empathizing and understanding. The people skills that are so essential for cultivating relationships in the global e-marketplace start with the positive relationship you cultivate with yourself.
9. Store Enormous Reserves of Energy Along with Patience and stick-to-it-Iveness
It's great to be an aggressive, energetic mover-and-shaker, but just as important to know when to slow down and let a negotiation take its own course. Real business breakthroughs don't come easily or quickly on the domestic front, and in the global market it's a thousand times more difficult. You must deliver long-term value in terms of product quality and customer service while building and maintaining the alliances a global market demands, and you must expect it to take a lot of time.
Stick-to-it-iveness is vital if you are going to maintain the committed effort needed to make things work. Don't quit before you have to just because you lack the nerve to keep up your efforts when there's no payoff in sight. Persevering through the discouraging, nerve-racking times will give you strength and confidence to carry you through even bolder efforts in the future.
10. Own Courage--Because Freedom in This World Is Born from Courage.
Going forward with anything about which you have even the smallest doubt takes courage. Responding to that German customer who wants 20,000 widgets when you don't know how you are going to serve them takes courage. Putting your reputation on the line and making up your mind to deal with the consequences takes courage. Staying true to your vision and your mission - in this case, going global - in the face of criticism and opposition takes courage. But if you can somehow call it up when you need it, your rewards will be extraordinary.
Ask yourself this: can you embrace uncertainty and rise to the occasion? The world is shifting fast, and "speed rules," as a recent Fast Company article proclaims. Change is commonplace. You must be able to address any new inquiry and shift your company's resources (namely, you!) to accommodate it.
Peter Drucker, one of the best management minds of our time, declares, "One cannot manage change. One can only be ahead of it.” And as you create worldwide online connections, the need to be comfortable with change will become more acute.
2. Develop an All-Encompassing Perspective
You should be able to function well on both a small and large scale - to hone in on details, yet always comprehend the big picture, and keep pace with that picture as it changes. As Gary Hamel, author of "Leading The Revolution," puts it, "You are trying to find capabilities that transcend the traditional boundaries in an organization.”
One day you'll be trying to pin down just why Japanese women like the color pink and the next day you'll be sorting out how the drop in the peso will affect your latest acquisition in Mexico. You'll need to take in information, see its significance, and act on it.
3. Welcome New Experiences, Even Crises, for They Bring About a Positive Confrontation Between Different Perspectives.
Think of a crisis as a surprise. Even a relatively ordinary life will teach you that the world is full of them. When you welcome them, you are light-years ahead of those who have been trained to guard against them. As early as 1986, Lexicon Communication's President Steven Fink was taking the position that "a crisis is a turning point which offers as much opportunity as danger.”
These challenges - or opportunities, depending on how you view them - should be used to map out new directions for your creative energies. For example, as a global trader, you must always seek to improve yourself, your product, your business, and your world.
4. Adapt, Take Risks and Innovate
Adaptability means that, if you don't know how different markets operate, you find out - fast. You stay sensitive to the cultural values of other countries. And if things appear one way today and another tomorrow, you shift gears and work with conditions as you find them. Creating your strategy on your feet is the only way to do global business.
The more you risk, the greater your chances for success or failure, but either way, you're pushing your limits and extending your reach. There comes a point in every initiative when you must recognize the risks and move forward anyway. Remember, you learn the most from failure, so take what chances you can afford.
Keeping the mind fresh, fertile, and open to new perspectives - the prerequisites of innovation - is a must if you want to conduct business effectively worldwide. There are endless ways of opening your mind that you can get to work on right now. View as many web sites as humanly possible.
Beyond surfing the Net, take long walks in unfamiliar neighborhoods. See foreign films. Meet people in other professions. Join social groups that attract members of other nationalities. Don't withdraw when confronted with cultural differences - hang in there and ask yourself why you feel the way you do. This is real learning.
Give yourself a chance to discover your own unexamined values and assumptions, and you will find it a lot easier to accept others' unfamiliar way!
5. Travel to at Least One Foreign Country and Stay for Several Weeks - Preferably with a Native Family - and Desire to Return
Are you prepared to cultivate your international contacts? You better be for you cannot hide behind a great website or e-mail forever. Get on a plane, land yourself somewhere far from home, and teach yourself to adjust. Interact with the locals. Cultivate friendships. Watch, listen and learn. Ask a lot of questions. Live and breathe the environment. Do as the natives do. This is the best possible training for becoming a global businessperson.
6. Learn as Much as Possible About the Culture in Which You Are About to Do Business
Pay attention to etiquette, netiquette and protocol, and behave exactly as interpersonal situations dictate. One day you are a diplomat, the next a leader, and sometimes both. When your every move is subject to scrutiny, it's best to come equipped with the knowledge that will put you ahead of the game.
You can start by thinking about what makes you different from your next door neighbor. Then form the habit of doing the same thing on a citywide, nationwide, and worldwide scale. Try to understand how and why people from different ethnic and cultural backgrounds think and behave the way they do.
Assuming you don't have time for an extended foreign language course, visit a good brick-and-mortar or online store that specializes in cultural nuances. Two are Savvy Traveler and Rand McNally. Here, you can buy books and audio cassette tapes to help you learn about the economy, dress, language, cuisine, etiquette, and other vital statistics of just about any country in the world.
7. Maintain Passion, Enthusiasm, Playfulness and Curiosity
Show your business associates that you value every negotiation as if it is a matter of life or death. Let your e-mails communicate how intensely you care. Let them see that you are passionate about what you are building together, along with a healthy dose of enthusiasm. These traits are contagious and irresistible - they draw people to you no matter where in the world you are.
Want to fill yourself with passion and enthusiasm? Remember what it was like to be a kid? Spontaneous, free, not a care in the world? Want to bring it on now? Visit happypuppy or Hotwired's Animation Express. In your day-to-day dealings, let some of that powerful playfulness show. Use it carefully - there's obviously a time for play and a time for seriousness. Bringing a judicious helping of childlike joy and high good humor to your business communications can sometimes make or break an international deal.
Finally, show your eagerness to discover more, to do more, to push the limits of the known. You need curiosity to drive you in search of "more." Your passion, enthusiasm and playfulness need somewhere to go.
Take the next step, go the extra mile, and wonder what if, what's next, what's possible. Curiosity didn't kill the cat, and it won't kill you, either. It can only give you a bigger and better life.
8. Know Yourself Well Before You Present Yourself in the International Arena
In the article "All the Right Moves" (Fast Company, Issue 24, page 192), Anna Luoio talks about how chess is a game of thinking ahead, quickly and under pressure. Luoio proposes that the most important forms of intelligence - in chess and in life - are the ability to read other people and the ability to understand oneself.
Getting ready to undertake an online global business is a very similar game. You must know yourself well enough to anticipate how you will react in new and difficult circumstances. You must be able to exercise self-control. You must develop inner security by counting yourself as valuable apart from your successes or failures.
When you know yourself well, you are able to build connections with others by listening, empathizing and understanding. The people skills that are so essential for cultivating relationships in the global e-marketplace start with the positive relationship you cultivate with yourself.
9. Store Enormous Reserves of Energy Along with Patience and stick-to-it-Iveness
It's great to be an aggressive, energetic mover-and-shaker, but just as important to know when to slow down and let a negotiation take its own course. Real business breakthroughs don't come easily or quickly on the domestic front, and in the global market it's a thousand times more difficult. You must deliver long-term value in terms of product quality and customer service while building and maintaining the alliances a global market demands, and you must expect it to take a lot of time.
Stick-to-it-iveness is vital if you are going to maintain the committed effort needed to make things work. Don't quit before you have to just because you lack the nerve to keep up your efforts when there's no payoff in sight. Persevering through the discouraging, nerve-racking times will give you strength and confidence to carry you through even bolder efforts in the future.
10. Own Courage--Because Freedom in This World Is Born from Courage.
Going forward with anything about which you have even the smallest doubt takes courage. Responding to that German customer who wants 20,000 widgets when you don't know how you are going to serve them takes courage. Putting your reputation on the line and making up your mind to deal with the consequences takes courage. Staying true to your vision and your mission - in this case, going global - in the face of criticism and opposition takes courage. But if you can somehow call it up when you need it, your rewards will be extraordinary.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Can your computer make you happy?
In sci-fi films, when anyone gives a computer emotions, it all goes horribly wrong. The computer becomes vain, doubtful and irrational and Armageddon by wayward technology is only narrowly avoided. Yet machines that can recognise our emotions and respond to them are a hot new area in computer design.
We're not talking about handing a global missile defence system over to a PC with a lot of feelings, but we are talking about improving the interface between humans and computers by making computers easier and more intuitive to interact with. For example, computers that sense when a user is getting frustrated could try a different way of explaining how to troubleshoot the internet connection. Cars that can tell when a driver is about to fall asleep could sound an alarm.
Though computers have become more attuned to how humans behave, there are still glitches in communication. Your PC may have the processing power of a small space station from the Seventies, but it can't tell if you're upset. Building an awareness of human emotions into computers would be very beneficial, whether it's through facial and smile recognition, through analysing the words you say or type, or monitoring the pitch of your voice or the style of your gestures.
The laboratory for Affective Computing at The Massachusetts Institute of Technology puts it like this: "Emotion is fundamental to human experience, influencing cognition, perception, and everyday tasks such as learning, communication, and even rational decision-making. However, technologists have largely ignored emotion and created an often-frustrating experience for people, in part because affect has been misunderstood and is hard to measure."
A computer doesn't know that you're frustrated; it just knows you're doing it wrong. Currently, you need to be a human to detect that sort of thing – or at least a dog. But there are some distinct commercial advantages in making emotional computers.
At the Consumer Electronics Show last month, Asus (creator of the Eee PC) revealed a range of concept computers called Waveface. It features a watch, a laptop and a TV, and as well as touchscreens and high-definition images these futuristic candy-coloured gadgets promised emotional intelligence.
"Every element in the user's environment, even down to the user's own physiology and emotional state, can be sources of data to help deliver the right information and services at the right time," is how Asus described its new wunder products. Jonney Shih, CEO of Asus, explains what that means. But it is not, it turns out, sessions where you tell the TV about your feelings.
Shih anticipates a future where the office, the home and the public space are all connected by cloud computing. The internet will be accessible everywhere and the amount of information on the internet will only grow.
"So much information now is available from the internet, from the cloud," he says, "so the challenge now is how to screen or filter that information so that you can get it when you really need it." Asus's Waveface products will use data about you (from where you are to your emotional state) to help tailor the information and services it offers to what's relevant to your particular situation.
To this end, Asus has a concept of an intelligent agent, a sort of invisible avatar for the user, that is built into the computer interface and acts on the user's behalf.
"We have what we sometimes call the intelligent agent," explains Shih, "which tries to help you get what you need at the right time and the right place. The goal is to achieve real-time, real-place and real-human information. Making sure that you always know where you are, know where your friends are, know your parking space and points of interest to you: restaurants, meeting places."
The details of the Waveface products are still shrouded in manufacturer secrecy, but we can expect them on the market in three to five years. But it is not just computer manufacturers who are intrigued by the new interactivity.
Other companies putting money into this area include car manufacturers. Toyota hit the headlines in 2005 with the Pod, an experimental car which signalled the mood of its driver to other road users by brightening, dimming or colouring the headlights. The car was embedded with voice recognition software by Scottish company Affective Media which uses the tone and the pitch of the voice as indicators of the driver's emotion.
As well as altering the headlights, if the car judged the driver to be stressed it would release soothing perfume, flick on some mellow music and perhaps suggest a less-congested route. If it sensed a driver was about to doze off, it would wake them with an alarm.
"Stressed drivers are bad drivers," says Ray Warde, CEO of Affective Media, "and so is a person about to fall asleep.
"The voice of a driver gives a lot of information about the way they are actually behaving at the time," he explains. "At the moment only certain models of cars will talk to the driver but that will become more common and drivers will start to control cars through speech recognition."
There are innumerable ways car or mobile-phone makers could incorporate this software into their devices.
While manufacturers and money men consider the commercial uses of emotionally-intelligent computers, academics such as Dr Russell Beale, a senior lecturer in Computer Science at Birmingham University, take a broader view on why it's useful for computers to be able to detect our emotions and then respond as if they too were emotional beings. We already treat computers like they have feelings. Beale mentions a seminal book by two scientists called Reeves and Nass, The Media Equation: how people treat computers, TV and New Media like Real People and Real Places, which was published in 1998. The book describes a psychological experiment showing that people treated computers (at that time, standard Nineties terminals with green lights on a screen) as if they were social beings – as if the machines had emotions and personality.
"Without these systems trying to be sensitive or 'affective' in any way" Beale says, "people were still viewing the computer as if it had responses and they didn't want to upset it.
"Since then," he explains, "people have realised that when you're dealing with an interactive system the more interactive it gets – the more you start thinking, 'Oh, this is how I interact with people.' That makes you think about the aspects of interaction that are missing and emotion is obviously one of them."
The second reason is engagement. "Research so far has shown that people are more engaged with a system that seems to demonstrate emotional responses," Beale says. "It makes people more caught up in the interaction that's happening, whether you're talking about games or learning or healthcare systems."
There are social uses for emotional technology. Beale is working on projects that use emotional computers to help people: from getting them to eat healthily to giving up drugs.
However, there are limits to where we want emotional computing. It's a question of context. "People often say 'it's going to be much better dealing with interactive computers because it's going to understand me better', but frequently we use computers simply as tools," Beale says. "If you're writing an urgent report you don't want Microsoft Word saying to you, 'You seem a bit stressed, would you like to take a break?' You'd be like, 'No, I've got a deadline.' Sometimes you just want systems to respond as tools."
He cites the Microsoft paperclip as an example of an inappropriate intervention. "It would ask you sensible stuff, but for most people, it kept popping up at the wrong time and getting in the way."
Yet there other cases such as teaching and sports coaching when emotional response, whether encouraging or slightly negative, will boost performance. Beale gets to the heart of the emotional computer: "In the same way that it's easier talking to someone who has empathy with what you're saying, who gives you extra responses apart from just a straightforward verbal reply, it makes our everyday interactions much easier.
"In the right cases, putting empathy into computer systems is really going to help."
We're not talking about handing a global missile defence system over to a PC with a lot of feelings, but we are talking about improving the interface between humans and computers by making computers easier and more intuitive to interact with. For example, computers that sense when a user is getting frustrated could try a different way of explaining how to troubleshoot the internet connection. Cars that can tell when a driver is about to fall asleep could sound an alarm.
Though computers have become more attuned to how humans behave, there are still glitches in communication. Your PC may have the processing power of a small space station from the Seventies, but it can't tell if you're upset. Building an awareness of human emotions into computers would be very beneficial, whether it's through facial and smile recognition, through analysing the words you say or type, or monitoring the pitch of your voice or the style of your gestures.
The laboratory for Affective Computing at The Massachusetts Institute of Technology puts it like this: "Emotion is fundamental to human experience, influencing cognition, perception, and everyday tasks such as learning, communication, and even rational decision-making. However, technologists have largely ignored emotion and created an often-frustrating experience for people, in part because affect has been misunderstood and is hard to measure."
A computer doesn't know that you're frustrated; it just knows you're doing it wrong. Currently, you need to be a human to detect that sort of thing – or at least a dog. But there are some distinct commercial advantages in making emotional computers.
At the Consumer Electronics Show last month, Asus (creator of the Eee PC) revealed a range of concept computers called Waveface. It features a watch, a laptop and a TV, and as well as touchscreens and high-definition images these futuristic candy-coloured gadgets promised emotional intelligence.
"Every element in the user's environment, even down to the user's own physiology and emotional state, can be sources of data to help deliver the right information and services at the right time," is how Asus described its new wunder products. Jonney Shih, CEO of Asus, explains what that means. But it is not, it turns out, sessions where you tell the TV about your feelings.
Shih anticipates a future where the office, the home and the public space are all connected by cloud computing. The internet will be accessible everywhere and the amount of information on the internet will only grow.
"So much information now is available from the internet, from the cloud," he says, "so the challenge now is how to screen or filter that information so that you can get it when you really need it." Asus's Waveface products will use data about you (from where you are to your emotional state) to help tailor the information and services it offers to what's relevant to your particular situation.
To this end, Asus has a concept of an intelligent agent, a sort of invisible avatar for the user, that is built into the computer interface and acts on the user's behalf.
"We have what we sometimes call the intelligent agent," explains Shih, "which tries to help you get what you need at the right time and the right place. The goal is to achieve real-time, real-place and real-human information. Making sure that you always know where you are, know where your friends are, know your parking space and points of interest to you: restaurants, meeting places."
The details of the Waveface products are still shrouded in manufacturer secrecy, but we can expect them on the market in three to five years. But it is not just computer manufacturers who are intrigued by the new interactivity.
Other companies putting money into this area include car manufacturers. Toyota hit the headlines in 2005 with the Pod, an experimental car which signalled the mood of its driver to other road users by brightening, dimming or colouring the headlights. The car was embedded with voice recognition software by Scottish company Affective Media which uses the tone and the pitch of the voice as indicators of the driver's emotion.
As well as altering the headlights, if the car judged the driver to be stressed it would release soothing perfume, flick on some mellow music and perhaps suggest a less-congested route. If it sensed a driver was about to doze off, it would wake them with an alarm.
"Stressed drivers are bad drivers," says Ray Warde, CEO of Affective Media, "and so is a person about to fall asleep.
"The voice of a driver gives a lot of information about the way they are actually behaving at the time," he explains. "At the moment only certain models of cars will talk to the driver but that will become more common and drivers will start to control cars through speech recognition."
There are innumerable ways car or mobile-phone makers could incorporate this software into their devices.
While manufacturers and money men consider the commercial uses of emotionally-intelligent computers, academics such as Dr Russell Beale, a senior lecturer in Computer Science at Birmingham University, take a broader view on why it's useful for computers to be able to detect our emotions and then respond as if they too were emotional beings. We already treat computers like they have feelings. Beale mentions a seminal book by two scientists called Reeves and Nass, The Media Equation: how people treat computers, TV and New Media like Real People and Real Places, which was published in 1998. The book describes a psychological experiment showing that people treated computers (at that time, standard Nineties terminals with green lights on a screen) as if they were social beings – as if the machines had emotions and personality.
"Without these systems trying to be sensitive or 'affective' in any way" Beale says, "people were still viewing the computer as if it had responses and they didn't want to upset it.
"Since then," he explains, "people have realised that when you're dealing with an interactive system the more interactive it gets – the more you start thinking, 'Oh, this is how I interact with people.' That makes you think about the aspects of interaction that are missing and emotion is obviously one of them."
The second reason is engagement. "Research so far has shown that people are more engaged with a system that seems to demonstrate emotional responses," Beale says. "It makes people more caught up in the interaction that's happening, whether you're talking about games or learning or healthcare systems."
There are social uses for emotional technology. Beale is working on projects that use emotional computers to help people: from getting them to eat healthily to giving up drugs.
However, there are limits to where we want emotional computing. It's a question of context. "People often say 'it's going to be much better dealing with interactive computers because it's going to understand me better', but frequently we use computers simply as tools," Beale says. "If you're writing an urgent report you don't want Microsoft Word saying to you, 'You seem a bit stressed, would you like to take a break?' You'd be like, 'No, I've got a deadline.' Sometimes you just want systems to respond as tools."
He cites the Microsoft paperclip as an example of an inappropriate intervention. "It would ask you sensible stuff, but for most people, it kept popping up at the wrong time and getting in the way."
Yet there other cases such as teaching and sports coaching when emotional response, whether encouraging or slightly negative, will boost performance. Beale gets to the heart of the emotional computer: "In the same way that it's easier talking to someone who has empathy with what you're saying, who gives you extra responses apart from just a straightforward verbal reply, it makes our everyday interactions much easier.
"In the right cases, putting empathy into computer systems is really going to help."
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