Friday, June 25, 2010

Invest Yourself in Degree

by Tara Dubbs

You'll Be a Better Person

College grads exhibit a higher prevalence of desirable personality traits. In a report published by the Carnegie Foundation, researchers found that postsecondary students were "more open-minded, more cultured, more rational, more consistent, and less authoritarian." What's more, your children inherit these personality traits. They also found that attending college will "decrease prejudice, enhance knowledge of world affairs, and enhance social status."

College Does the Body Good

More highly educated people have lower incidences of many serious illnesses. According to the study "Disease and Disadvantage in the United States and in England," published by the American Medical Association, people with high levels of education reported lower rates of diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, stroke, and lung disease. College graduates also smoke less and have lower obesity rates than less-educated Americans. Furthermore, "parental schooling levels are positively correlated with the health status of their children."

The Bright Side of Graduation

Graduating college makes you think positively. A study by Cohn and Geske found that "college graduates appear to have a more-optimistic view of their past and future personal progress." It's no surprise that there is a high correlation between higher education and good cultural and family values.

Everyone Benefits from Your Degree

You are not the only person who reaps the benefits of a college degree. The Institute for Higher Education Policy finds that the public will benefit from increased tax revenues and greater consumption. College graduates are also less reliant on financial support from the government. And the workforce will benefit from college graduates' greater productivity and flexibility.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Dreams

Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow...

Friday, May 28, 2010

Tiger Lily

Perhaps it's far too early to reveal
A feeling not yet ready to be love.
The light of dawn, though hesitant, is real;
Real as well the hopes that time will prove.
I dance across the meadows of my heart
Carrying doubts that mingle joy and fear.
I know I'm half myself when we're apart;
All I want is with me when you're near.

Some people think that friends should be just friends;
To try for more might ruin what they have.
I think the closest friend is one you love,
Sharing life with words and lips and hands.

One caress unravels mysteries
Lodged behind the most elaborate mask.
The revelation's more than worth the risk.
I want with you such sweet simplicities.

I want us to be friends who now are free
To speak with all the languages of touch.
I want to share your anguish with a kiss
And feel your happiness against my cheek.

I'm sorry for the way I say I love you.
I know this kind of talk is far too soon.
I cannot stop myself; I just adore you.
And so this truth pronounces its own doom.
But when a truth betrays itself, I wonder:
Could it be that such a truth be true?
Or could the sweet compulsion that I'm under
Be caused in part by ignorance of you?
I know only the truth of what I feel,
Which lies beneath all sanity or rule.
My love for you is deep and rich and real,
Though it may be I simply am a fool.
Time will tell the truth, for if you do
Not want my love, I cannot long love you.

Goodbye, my lover and my friend,
On whom I lean my life,
On whom my fortunes now depend,
Do, for me, keep safe.
Be brave, my love, but also know
You live not just for one, but two,
Even as I wait....

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

23 Things We'd Love to See Make a Comeback

1. Streaking.

2. Impressionists. Not the French painters. Rather, all those guys who used to do imitations of George Burns, Kirk Douglas, and Jimmy Stewart. Where have you gone, Rich Little? Frank Gorshin?

3. The Dow. This time we'll sell at 11,500. Swear to God.

4. Mood rings. Goodbye, guesswork: "Hmm, amber . . . This chick is digging my vibe."

5. Bill Clinton. Can nobody feel our pain?

6. Bralessness. The current retro hippie-chick style (bell-bottoms, peasant blouses) doesn't include the '60s move most worth reprising. Sisters, defy the patriarchy that has bound you for so long! Freedom's just another word for setting those babies free.

7. Memorization. No 11-year-old child who knows the capital of every state has ever grown up to become society's problem.

8. Manners. According to a man we admire, "There is nothing tougher than a gentleman."

9. Pigs-in-a-blanket.

10. Burning leaves in the backyard. We'll trade a few molecules of the ozone layer for a smell so sweet that it makes suburban 9-year-olds feel safe at home.

11. D.B. Cooper. Come on, man, you're a congressman, aren't you?

12. Championship fights on network TV.

13. Stallone. Sly deserves a second season in the sun because he wrote three words of dialogue that say more about men than all the other words ever written. Slumped in his corner, his eyes swollen shut by Apollo's blows, Rocky summarizes the centuries-old struggle between stupid and brave: "Cut me, Mick." Top that, Shakespeare!

14. Full-size spare tires. Come on, Mr. Volvo! Doesn't $32,500 buy us more than a doughnut thingy?

15. Enthusiasm. Everybody's cool these days. We miss the sweet spectacle of a man who's juiced, fired up by whatever—his work, his family, his new woman, or his new wheels.

16. Jeff Gillooly. Remember figure skater Tonya Harding's hubby? The kneecapping of wifey's rival, Nancy Kerrigan? Of course, he's a lowlife, but in an age of overthinking everything, here's to his simple can-do spirit. See problem, fix problem.

17. Posses. Not the rap-star kind, the saddle-up, he-went-thataway kind.

18. Stealing home. In 1968, Rod Carew stole home seven times. Last year, in all of major-league baseball there was only one attempt to steal home. Bring back the ultimate smart-ass move.

19. Wife swapping. What's the big deal? One night! Everybody wins!

20. The public-works project. The Hoover Dam. The interstate highway system. The race to the moon. Since the '60s, we've had no massive construction project to inspire us as a nation. We need one. We're a nation of builders. Best idea: a super-duper, high-speed rail system that makes Denver a suburb of Detroit.

21. "Because I said so." Enough explaining why to kids. ("Because 5-year-olds can't reach the brake, Timmy.") The autocratic authority of "Because I said so" is both less tiring for Dad and better for children. When you're 5, it's reassuring to know that you're not in charge.

22. Integrity. "Honor is the gift a man gives himself." —Rob Roy

23. Halter tops. See "Bralessness" (No. 6).

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

5 Tips to Attract Women Like Magnet

1 Never Settle for Just Any Woman

The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding the woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of the heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you” is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman hold out for someone that you really connect with and live the life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!

2 Apply the Laws of Attraction

This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on the subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around the globe on the differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name the place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about the Laws of Attraction.

Now, this is not to say that the Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.

What are the Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows the man’s physical attributes.

3 Don't Be Too Nice

Of course, everyone knows that being "nice" is considered socially acceptable in the world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be - that's how they choose their friends. Being "NICE" just isn't what ignites the flames of passion. What does ignite the flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one's self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn't mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.

4 Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!

Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn't appear interested in you romantically that you are the person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can't change the way a person "feels." You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with the knowledge that a woman doesn't "feel" attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue the woman without regard for her lack of "feelings." Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to the next lady in line, who might just "feel" attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!

5 Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time

It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman's mind that the man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain the woman's approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack the necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining the attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman's approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!

Thursday, March 4, 2010

How To Use Body Language To Your Advantage When Dating

Attract the man or woman you want by sending out signals

This is the language where you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man and sending the get lost signal to the wrong man.

Eyeing Up the Prize

The more eye contact you establish with the target the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself. This will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you -- a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare and flash a smile.

If there is a man that is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away from him and don't look back at him again. While having a conversation, looking at the ceiling and around the room also shows a definite lack of interest.

>First Impressions Count

You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best. You never know. You just might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.

The Hand Job (no, not what you are thinking!)

Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the brave, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.

Hands jammed in pockets, cleaning eyeglasses or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Finger tapping, drumming, pointing or wagging are also signals to move on.

Stand Out

Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. Also, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.

Crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.

A Few Extra Tips

Hopefully by now you have an attack plan for when it's time to get down and dirty, or when it's best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:

You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.
Don't tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through with. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.
Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standingfor the body language game.
If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately.
Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate.

And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love."

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

7 Most Shocking Secrets Women doesn't Want Men to know

Women get jealous as hell

They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.

I am the sexiest of them all

Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men (like Princess Diana).

Am I fat

I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?

They always lie about shopping

They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.( even though the Chinese New Year sale just pass by)

What shoes are you wearing

If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.

Don't share secrets with them


If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeah when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.

They know when you are cheating

Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.