Heyh you,we might be best friends one year, pretty good friends the next year,don't talk that often the next, and don't want to talk at all the year after that. So, I just wanted to say........"even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life" i care bout you my dear.Perhaps, a guy and a girl can be friends. But sooner or later one will fall for the other. Maybe too early, maybe too late, but maybe, just maybe forever. Frankly speak,don't blame the gravity when u fall in that particular feeling.It's all about happiness. Everybody wants happiness. Nobody wants pain. But you can't have a rainbow, without a little rain. (aku harap smua pham aku bermetafora) =) always remember,life is process of learning. It's just like a fantastic game. The game of life is a lot like football. You have to tackle your problems, block your fears, and score your points when you get the opportunity. last but not least,dare to dream and work for ur dream my frenz.chill.
p/s:post ini tiada kaitan antara hidup @ yg mati. =)
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Monday, December 13, 2010
What you see is what you get
Cerdik pandai pernah menyatakan"Cara kita melihat menentukan siapa kita".
Benarlah begitu, kerana seseorang yang menjadikan suasananya positif pasti akan melihat semua perkara adalah positif.
Hadapilah perbezaan pendapat dengan senyuman nescaya masalah itu pasti senyum kembali kepada kita.
Sekurang-kurangnya kita tahu bahawa sudut yang kita ketahui sebenarnya mempunyai sudut lain yang belum kita ketahui.
Kadang-kadang kita tidak nampak dalam diri ada kekurangan, dan sebab itulah kita perlu teman mahupun rakan taulan untuk memberitahu.
Perbezaan pendapat sangat baik, kerana ia mencetuskan idea yang berlainan, cara fikir yang berbeza dan lebih terbuka, pengetahuan yang meluas juga menentukan jati diri seseorang individu bergelar hamba Allah.
Sebagai contoh,3 orang pelajar yang termenung di dalam kelas dan memandang ke luar, seorang melihat kepada pokok, seorang lagi melihat kepada awan, dan seorang lagi melihat kepada padang bola, semuanya pasti mempunyai tafsiran berbeza terhadap objek.
Allah s.w.t menciptakan manusia ini berbeza dari segi cara mereka berfikir.
Itulah kehebatan Maha Pencipta.
Dalam berbilion-bilion manusia jarang sekali mempunyai pendapat yang sama pada waktu yang sama.
Oleh sebab itulah kita harus menerima perbezaan pendapat, walaupun ramai yang tidak mampu menerima kerana sudah terbiasa di didik dengan 'rasa betul'.
Apabila berlaku perbezaan, hatinya cepat marah.
Orang-orang dahulu pernah mengatakan "cerek yang kecil lebih mudah panas, begitu juga orang yang berhati kecil".
Kenapa perlu merasa panas hati apabila orang lain berpendapat berbeza? pengalaman kehidupan manusia itu tidak pernah sama.rambut manusia sahaja sama hitam tetapi hati mempunyai 1001 pendapat yg acap kali berbeza.
Si A memandang pokok kelapa kerana dia hanya mempunyai pengetahuan tentang buahnya, tetapi si B apabila memandang pokok kelapa, dia tahu dari daun, batang sehingga ke buah mempunyai kegunaan tersendiri.
Begitu juga orang yang belajar.
Kita mungkin belajar pada tempat berbeza dengan guru yang berbeza.
Pemahaman kita dengan orang lain sudah tentu berbeza.
Mana mungkin Si A belajar dengan guru B tetapi mengetahui apa yang diajarkan oleh guru C pada masa yang sama.
Sikap kita melambangkan siapa kita.
Orang yang tidak boleh menerima pendapat orang lain, bermakna dia orang yang berfikiran negatif dan selalunya baran.
Orang begini tidak boleh bekerja secara berkumpulan atau menghadiri mesyuarat apa pun, kerana pasti mendatangkan masalah.
Pernah suatu ketika seorang ahli falsafah yang bernama Galileo Galilei yang lahir di Pisa pada tahun 1564 ditangkap oleh pihak gereja pada zamannya hanya kerana berbeza pendapat dalam hal samada bumi itu bulat atau tidak.
Beliau mendapati bumi itu bulat, ini bermakna dia bertentangan dengan pendapat gereja kerana kepercayaan gereja ketika itu adalah bumi itu leper, Justeru, dia ditangkap kerana berbeza pendapat dengan pihak gereja.
p/s:aku mengaku aku juga panas baran dan kadang kala aku pkir aku shajer btol. =)
Benarlah begitu, kerana seseorang yang menjadikan suasananya positif pasti akan melihat semua perkara adalah positif.
Hadapilah perbezaan pendapat dengan senyuman nescaya masalah itu pasti senyum kembali kepada kita.
Sekurang-kurangnya kita tahu bahawa sudut yang kita ketahui sebenarnya mempunyai sudut lain yang belum kita ketahui.
Kadang-kadang kita tidak nampak dalam diri ada kekurangan, dan sebab itulah kita perlu teman mahupun rakan taulan untuk memberitahu.
Perbezaan pendapat sangat baik, kerana ia mencetuskan idea yang berlainan, cara fikir yang berbeza dan lebih terbuka, pengetahuan yang meluas juga menentukan jati diri seseorang individu bergelar hamba Allah.
Sebagai contoh,3 orang pelajar yang termenung di dalam kelas dan memandang ke luar, seorang melihat kepada pokok, seorang lagi melihat kepada awan, dan seorang lagi melihat kepada padang bola, semuanya pasti mempunyai tafsiran berbeza terhadap objek.
Allah s.w.t menciptakan manusia ini berbeza dari segi cara mereka berfikir.
Itulah kehebatan Maha Pencipta.
Dalam berbilion-bilion manusia jarang sekali mempunyai pendapat yang sama pada waktu yang sama.
Oleh sebab itulah kita harus menerima perbezaan pendapat, walaupun ramai yang tidak mampu menerima kerana sudah terbiasa di didik dengan 'rasa betul'.
Apabila berlaku perbezaan, hatinya cepat marah.
Orang-orang dahulu pernah mengatakan "cerek yang kecil lebih mudah panas, begitu juga orang yang berhati kecil".
Kenapa perlu merasa panas hati apabila orang lain berpendapat berbeza? pengalaman kehidupan manusia itu tidak pernah sama.rambut manusia sahaja sama hitam tetapi hati mempunyai 1001 pendapat yg acap kali berbeza.
Si A memandang pokok kelapa kerana dia hanya mempunyai pengetahuan tentang buahnya, tetapi si B apabila memandang pokok kelapa, dia tahu dari daun, batang sehingga ke buah mempunyai kegunaan tersendiri.
Begitu juga orang yang belajar.
Kita mungkin belajar pada tempat berbeza dengan guru yang berbeza.
Pemahaman kita dengan orang lain sudah tentu berbeza.
Mana mungkin Si A belajar dengan guru B tetapi mengetahui apa yang diajarkan oleh guru C pada masa yang sama.
Sikap kita melambangkan siapa kita.
Orang yang tidak boleh menerima pendapat orang lain, bermakna dia orang yang berfikiran negatif dan selalunya baran.
Orang begini tidak boleh bekerja secara berkumpulan atau menghadiri mesyuarat apa pun, kerana pasti mendatangkan masalah.
Pernah suatu ketika seorang ahli falsafah yang bernama Galileo Galilei yang lahir di Pisa pada tahun 1564 ditangkap oleh pihak gereja pada zamannya hanya kerana berbeza pendapat dalam hal samada bumi itu bulat atau tidak.
Beliau mendapati bumi itu bulat, ini bermakna dia bertentangan dengan pendapat gereja kerana kepercayaan gereja ketika itu adalah bumi itu leper, Justeru, dia ditangkap kerana berbeza pendapat dengan pihak gereja.
p/s:aku mengaku aku juga panas baran dan kadang kala aku pkir aku shajer btol. =)
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Keluarga @ Kerjaya?
A woman came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find her 5 years old son waiting for her at the door.
Son: Mummy, can I ask you a question?
Mum: Yes, sure. What is it?
Son: Mummy, how much do you make an hour?
Mum: That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing. The woman said angrily.
Son: I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?
Mum: If you must know, I make RM50 an hour.
Son: Oh. The little boy replied, with his head down.
Son: Mummy, can I borrow RM25?
The mother was furious.
Mum: If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you're being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.
The little boy then quietly went to his room and shut the door. The woman sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions.
How dare he asked such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the woman had calmed down and started to think. Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that RM25 and he really didn't asked for money very often. The woman went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
Mum: Are you asleep, son?
Son: No mummy, I'm awake.
Mum: I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the RM25 you asked for.
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
Son: Oh, thank you mummy! He yelled, then reaching under his pillow, he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The woman saw the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his mother.
Mum: Why do you want more money if you already have some?!
Son: Because I didn't have enough. But now I do........ Mummy, I have RM50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.
The mother was crushed. She puts her arms arround her little son, and she begged for his forgiveness.
P/S:It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.AKU mengaku,kdang2 aku terlalu fokus utk mencipta kegemilangan tanpa menghiraukan manusia yg sering membuat aku tersenyum.MAMA & PAPA.aku syg mereka wlaupon aku x tau cmner nk ckp.yelarh ego yg tinngi dlm diriku ini.wktu tgh belajar,aku jarang blik umah.(pdahal kat uitm puncak alam jer bkn luar negara). wktu sem break lak aku sibuk kerja.smpi jarang duduk umah.so guys,hargai mereka selagi mereka masih ada.ADAM SYG PAPA & MAMA. =)
Son: Mummy, can I ask you a question?
Mum: Yes, sure. What is it?
Son: Mummy, how much do you make an hour?
Mum: That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing. The woman said angrily.
Son: I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?
Mum: If you must know, I make RM50 an hour.
Son: Oh. The little boy replied, with his head down.
Son: Mummy, can I borrow RM25?
The mother was furious.
Mum: If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you're being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.
The little boy then quietly went to his room and shut the door. The woman sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions.
How dare he asked such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the woman had calmed down and started to think. Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that RM25 and he really didn't asked for money very often. The woman went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.
Mum: Are you asleep, son?
Son: No mummy, I'm awake.
Mum: I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the RM25 you asked for.
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
Son: Oh, thank you mummy! He yelled, then reaching under his pillow, he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The woman saw the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his mother.
Mum: Why do you want more money if you already have some?!
Son: Because I didn't have enough. But now I do........ Mummy, I have RM50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.
The mother was crushed. She puts her arms arround her little son, and she begged for his forgiveness.
P/S:It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.AKU mengaku,kdang2 aku terlalu fokus utk mencipta kegemilangan tanpa menghiraukan manusia yg sering membuat aku tersenyum.MAMA & PAPA.aku syg mereka wlaupon aku x tau cmner nk ckp.yelarh ego yg tinngi dlm diriku ini.wktu tgh belajar,aku jarang blik umah.(pdahal kat uitm puncak alam jer bkn luar negara). wktu sem break lak aku sibuk kerja.smpi jarang duduk umah.so guys,hargai mereka selagi mereka masih ada.ADAM SYG PAPA & MAMA. =)
Friday, July 16, 2010
How to Stage a Successful Comeback and Win Your Ex Instantly After a Relationship Breakup Or Crisis
By Tosin Ajibowo and Nkechi Ajibowo
One thing can be said about relationship breakups and that is you can stage a comeback if you so desire and are not prepared to call it quits with your boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, mate, partner, spouse or Ex.
It is no longer news to you hearing that so and so in such and such relationship broke up or is separated because check this out, you are in the middle of a relationship crisis that has ended in breakup.
Tell you what, it can be tough and/or frightening waking up to the realization that your love relationship is suddenly over and it all depends on how you take it in addition to the circumstances that led to your separation presently.
However, one thing that can be said in your favour or to your credit is that you are willing and ready to give your relationship breakup a fight to see things restored back even as you attempt to reconcile and become reunited with your lover and Ex.
Surprisingly, not many lovers tow this line or attempt to make up after a breakup has occurred in their relationship.
You must be warned that what things you thought to do to make your Ex realize why the breakup should not have happened, or why you feel you should still be together in your relationship might simply not be as easy as you imagined.
The simple reason is that the atmosphere of your love relationship has been drastically changed or altered by reason of the breakup that has happened. As such, emotions are still strung tense and there are areas where events have become a personal issue for both of you.
During this season that both of you are separated, placing voice calls or sending secret love messages of I still love you, I can't go another day without you in my life, or pulling whatever emotional tantrums will only help to keep the door shut against you for a comeback, reconciliation or getting your Ex back.
If this is what you have been up to lately, I advise you to PLEASE STOP right this moment. You are doing damage to whatever chances you have left for a successful comeback and getting your Ex back to your side and in your arms once again.
A proven trick that has been known to work even for difficult relationship breakup situations is for you to learn and master how to become attractive inside and out again. This is the start point before anything else. Furthermore, you can successfully win back his/her love in addition to being able to attract him/her to your side for another chance with your love relationship if you will only learn how.
Learn the powerful secrets to winning your Ex Lover and gain his/her attraction for you back by visiting Successful Relationship Comebacks. Putting pressure on your Ex to take you back or to return back to you might be counter productive to your intentions, go to Magic of Making-Up and discover like a thousands others who have been helped the proven system that works 99% of the time for reuniting Ex Lovers back.
Friday, June 25, 2010
Invest Yourself in Degree
by Tara Dubbs
You'll Be a Better Person
College grads exhibit a higher prevalence of desirable personality traits. In a report published by the Carnegie Foundation, researchers found that postsecondary students were "more open-minded, more cultured, more rational, more consistent, and less authoritarian." What's more, your children inherit these personality traits. They also found that attending college will "decrease prejudice, enhance knowledge of world affairs, and enhance social status."
College Does the Body Good
More highly educated people have lower incidences of many serious illnesses. According to the study "Disease and Disadvantage in the United States and in England," published by the American Medical Association, people with high levels of education reported lower rates of diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, stroke, and lung disease. College graduates also smoke less and have lower obesity rates than less-educated Americans. Furthermore, "parental schooling levels are positively correlated with the health status of their children."
The Bright Side of Graduation
Graduating college makes you think positively. A study by Cohn and Geske found that "college graduates appear to have a more-optimistic view of their past and future personal progress." It's no surprise that there is a high correlation between higher education and good cultural and family values.
Everyone Benefits from Your Degree
You are not the only person who reaps the benefits of a college degree. The Institute for Higher Education Policy finds that the public will benefit from increased tax revenues and greater consumption. College graduates are also less reliant on financial support from the government. And the workforce will benefit from college graduates' greater productivity and flexibility.
You'll Be a Better Person
College grads exhibit a higher prevalence of desirable personality traits. In a report published by the Carnegie Foundation, researchers found that postsecondary students were "more open-minded, more cultured, more rational, more consistent, and less authoritarian." What's more, your children inherit these personality traits. They also found that attending college will "decrease prejudice, enhance knowledge of world affairs, and enhance social status."
College Does the Body Good
More highly educated people have lower incidences of many serious illnesses. According to the study "Disease and Disadvantage in the United States and in England," published by the American Medical Association, people with high levels of education reported lower rates of diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, stroke, and lung disease. College graduates also smoke less and have lower obesity rates than less-educated Americans. Furthermore, "parental schooling levels are positively correlated with the health status of their children."
The Bright Side of Graduation
Graduating college makes you think positively. A study by Cohn and Geske found that "college graduates appear to have a more-optimistic view of their past and future personal progress." It's no surprise that there is a high correlation between higher education and good cultural and family values.
Everyone Benefits from Your Degree
You are not the only person who reaps the benefits of a college degree. The Institute for Higher Education Policy finds that the public will benefit from increased tax revenues and greater consumption. College graduates are also less reliant on financial support from the government. And the workforce will benefit from college graduates' greater productivity and flexibility.
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Dreams
Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow...
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow...
Friday, May 28, 2010
Tiger Lily
Perhaps it's far too early to reveal
A feeling not yet ready to be love.
The light of dawn, though hesitant, is real;
Real as well the hopes that time will prove.
I dance across the meadows of my heart
Carrying doubts that mingle joy and fear.
I know I'm half myself when we're apart;
All I want is with me when you're near.
Some people think that friends should be just friends;
To try for more might ruin what they have.
I think the closest friend is one you love,
Sharing life with words and lips and hands.
One caress unravels mysteries
Lodged behind the most elaborate mask.
The revelation's more than worth the risk.
I want with you such sweet simplicities.
I want us to be friends who now are free
To speak with all the languages of touch.
I want to share your anguish with a kiss
And feel your happiness against my cheek.
I'm sorry for the way I say I love you.
I know this kind of talk is far too soon.
I cannot stop myself; I just adore you.
And so this truth pronounces its own doom.
But when a truth betrays itself, I wonder:
Could it be that such a truth be true?
Or could the sweet compulsion that I'm under
Be caused in part by ignorance of you?
I know only the truth of what I feel,
Which lies beneath all sanity or rule.
My love for you is deep and rich and real,
Though it may be I simply am a fool.
Time will tell the truth, for if you do
Not want my love, I cannot long love you.
Goodbye, my lover and my friend,
On whom I lean my life,
On whom my fortunes now depend,
Do, for me, keep safe.
Be brave, my love, but also know
You live not just for one, but two,
Even as I wait....
A feeling not yet ready to be love.
The light of dawn, though hesitant, is real;
Real as well the hopes that time will prove.
I dance across the meadows of my heart
Carrying doubts that mingle joy and fear.
I know I'm half myself when we're apart;
All I want is with me when you're near.
Some people think that friends should be just friends;
To try for more might ruin what they have.
I think the closest friend is one you love,
Sharing life with words and lips and hands.
One caress unravels mysteries
Lodged behind the most elaborate mask.
The revelation's more than worth the risk.
I want with you such sweet simplicities.
I want us to be friends who now are free
To speak with all the languages of touch.
I want to share your anguish with a kiss
And feel your happiness against my cheek.
I'm sorry for the way I say I love you.
I know this kind of talk is far too soon.
I cannot stop myself; I just adore you.
And so this truth pronounces its own doom.
But when a truth betrays itself, I wonder:
Could it be that such a truth be true?
Or could the sweet compulsion that I'm under
Be caused in part by ignorance of you?
I know only the truth of what I feel,
Which lies beneath all sanity or rule.
My love for you is deep and rich and real,
Though it may be I simply am a fool.
Time will tell the truth, for if you do
Not want my love, I cannot long love you.
Goodbye, my lover and my friend,
On whom I lean my life,
On whom my fortunes now depend,
Do, for me, keep safe.
Be brave, my love, but also know
You live not just for one, but two,
Even as I wait....
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
23 Things We'd Love to See Make a Comeback
1. Streaking.
2. Impressionists. Not the French painters. Rather, all those guys who used to do imitations of George Burns, Kirk Douglas, and Jimmy Stewart. Where have you gone, Rich Little? Frank Gorshin?
3. The Dow. This time we'll sell at 11,500. Swear to God.
4. Mood rings. Goodbye, guesswork: "Hmm, amber . . . This chick is digging my vibe."
5. Bill Clinton. Can nobody feel our pain?
6. Bralessness. The current retro hippie-chick style (bell-bottoms, peasant blouses) doesn't include the '60s move most worth reprising. Sisters, defy the patriarchy that has bound you for so long! Freedom's just another word for setting those babies free.
7. Memorization. No 11-year-old child who knows the capital of every state has ever grown up to become society's problem.
8. Manners. According to a man we admire, "There is nothing tougher than a gentleman."
9. Pigs-in-a-blanket.
10. Burning leaves in the backyard. We'll trade a few molecules of the ozone layer for a smell so sweet that it makes suburban 9-year-olds feel safe at home.
11. D.B. Cooper. Come on, man, you're a congressman, aren't you?
12. Championship fights on network TV.
13. Stallone. Sly deserves a second season in the sun because he wrote three words of dialogue that say more about men than all the other words ever written. Slumped in his corner, his eyes swollen shut by Apollo's blows, Rocky summarizes the centuries-old struggle between stupid and brave: "Cut me, Mick." Top that, Shakespeare!
14. Full-size spare tires. Come on, Mr. Volvo! Doesn't $32,500 buy us more than a doughnut thingy?
15. Enthusiasm. Everybody's cool these days. We miss the sweet spectacle of a man who's juiced, fired up by whatever—his work, his family, his new woman, or his new wheels.
16. Jeff Gillooly. Remember figure skater Tonya Harding's hubby? The kneecapping of wifey's rival, Nancy Kerrigan? Of course, he's a lowlife, but in an age of overthinking everything, here's to his simple can-do spirit. See problem, fix problem.
17. Posses. Not the rap-star kind, the saddle-up, he-went-thataway kind.
18. Stealing home. In 1968, Rod Carew stole home seven times. Last year, in all of major-league baseball there was only one attempt to steal home. Bring back the ultimate smart-ass move.
19. Wife swapping. What's the big deal? One night! Everybody wins!
20. The public-works project. The Hoover Dam. The interstate highway system. The race to the moon. Since the '60s, we've had no massive construction project to inspire us as a nation. We need one. We're a nation of builders. Best idea: a super-duper, high-speed rail system that makes Denver a suburb of Detroit.
21. "Because I said so." Enough explaining why to kids. ("Because 5-year-olds can't reach the brake, Timmy.") The autocratic authority of "Because I said so" is both less tiring for Dad and better for children. When you're 5, it's reassuring to know that you're not in charge.
22. Integrity. "Honor is the gift a man gives himself." —Rob Roy
23. Halter tops. See "Bralessness" (No. 6).
2. Impressionists. Not the French painters. Rather, all those guys who used to do imitations of George Burns, Kirk Douglas, and Jimmy Stewart. Where have you gone, Rich Little? Frank Gorshin?
3. The Dow. This time we'll sell at 11,500. Swear to God.
4. Mood rings. Goodbye, guesswork: "Hmm, amber . . . This chick is digging my vibe."
5. Bill Clinton. Can nobody feel our pain?
6. Bralessness. The current retro hippie-chick style (bell-bottoms, peasant blouses) doesn't include the '60s move most worth reprising. Sisters, defy the patriarchy that has bound you for so long! Freedom's just another word for setting those babies free.
7. Memorization. No 11-year-old child who knows the capital of every state has ever grown up to become society's problem.
8. Manners. According to a man we admire, "There is nothing tougher than a gentleman."
9. Pigs-in-a-blanket.
10. Burning leaves in the backyard. We'll trade a few molecules of the ozone layer for a smell so sweet that it makes suburban 9-year-olds feel safe at home.
11. D.B. Cooper. Come on, man, you're a congressman, aren't you?
12. Championship fights on network TV.
13. Stallone. Sly deserves a second season in the sun because he wrote three words of dialogue that say more about men than all the other words ever written. Slumped in his corner, his eyes swollen shut by Apollo's blows, Rocky summarizes the centuries-old struggle between stupid and brave: "Cut me, Mick." Top that, Shakespeare!
14. Full-size spare tires. Come on, Mr. Volvo! Doesn't $32,500 buy us more than a doughnut thingy?
15. Enthusiasm. Everybody's cool these days. We miss the sweet spectacle of a man who's juiced, fired up by whatever—his work, his family, his new woman, or his new wheels.
16. Jeff Gillooly. Remember figure skater Tonya Harding's hubby? The kneecapping of wifey's rival, Nancy Kerrigan? Of course, he's a lowlife, but in an age of overthinking everything, here's to his simple can-do spirit. See problem, fix problem.
17. Posses. Not the rap-star kind, the saddle-up, he-went-thataway kind.
18. Stealing home. In 1968, Rod Carew stole home seven times. Last year, in all of major-league baseball there was only one attempt to steal home. Bring back the ultimate smart-ass move.
19. Wife swapping. What's the big deal? One night! Everybody wins!
20. The public-works project. The Hoover Dam. The interstate highway system. The race to the moon. Since the '60s, we've had no massive construction project to inspire us as a nation. We need one. We're a nation of builders. Best idea: a super-duper, high-speed rail system that makes Denver a suburb of Detroit.
21. "Because I said so." Enough explaining why to kids. ("Because 5-year-olds can't reach the brake, Timmy.") The autocratic authority of "Because I said so" is both less tiring for Dad and better for children. When you're 5, it's reassuring to know that you're not in charge.
22. Integrity. "Honor is the gift a man gives himself." —Rob Roy
23. Halter tops. See "Bralessness" (No. 6).
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
5 Tips to Attract Women Like Magnet
1 Never Settle for Just Any Woman
The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding the woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of the heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you” is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman hold out for someone that you really connect with and live the life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!
2 Apply the Laws of Attraction
This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on the subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around the globe on the differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name the place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about the Laws of Attraction.
Now, this is not to say that the Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.
What are the Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows the man’s physical attributes.
3 Don't Be Too Nice
Of course, everyone knows that being "nice" is considered socially acceptable in the world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be - that's how they choose their friends. Being "NICE" just isn't what ignites the flames of passion. What does ignite the flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one's self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn't mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.
4 Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!
Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn't appear interested in you romantically that you are the person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can't change the way a person "feels." You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with the knowledge that a woman doesn't "feel" attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue the woman without regard for her lack of "feelings." Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to the next lady in line, who might just "feel" attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!
5 Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time
It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman's mind that the man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain the woman's approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack the necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining the attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman's approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!
The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding the woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of the heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you” is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman hold out for someone that you really connect with and live the life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!
2 Apply the Laws of Attraction
This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on the subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around the globe on the differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name the place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about the Laws of Attraction.
Now, this is not to say that the Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.
What are the Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows the man’s physical attributes.
3 Don't Be Too Nice
Of course, everyone knows that being "nice" is considered socially acceptable in the world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be - that's how they choose their friends. Being "NICE" just isn't what ignites the flames of passion. What does ignite the flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one's self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn't mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.
4 Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!
Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn't appear interested in you romantically that you are the person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can't change the way a person "feels." You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with the knowledge that a woman doesn't "feel" attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue the woman without regard for her lack of "feelings." Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to the next lady in line, who might just "feel" attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!
5 Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time
It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman's mind that the man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain the woman's approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack the necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining the attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman's approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!
Thursday, March 4, 2010
How To Use Body Language To Your Advantage When Dating
Attract the man or woman you want by sending out signals
This is the language where you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man and sending the get lost signal to the wrong man.
Eyeing Up the Prize
The more eye contact you establish with the target the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself. This will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you -- a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare and flash a smile.
If there is a man that is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away from him and don't look back at him again. While having a conversation, looking at the ceiling and around the room also shows a definite lack of interest.
>First Impressions Count
You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best. You never know. You just might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.
The Hand Job (no, not what you are thinking!)
Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the brave, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.
Hands jammed in pockets, cleaning eyeglasses or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Finger tapping, drumming, pointing or wagging are also signals to move on.
Stand Out
Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. Also, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.
Crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.
A Few Extra Tips
Hopefully by now you have an attack plan for when it's time to get down and dirty, or when it's best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:
You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.
Don't tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through with. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.
Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standingfor the body language game.
If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately.
Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate.
And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love."
This is the language where you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man and sending the get lost signal to the wrong man.
Eyeing Up the Prize
The more eye contact you establish with the target the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself. This will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you -- a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare and flash a smile.
If there is a man that is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away from him and don't look back at him again. While having a conversation, looking at the ceiling and around the room also shows a definite lack of interest.
>First Impressions Count
You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best. You never know. You just might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.
The Hand Job (no, not what you are thinking!)
Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the brave, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.
Hands jammed in pockets, cleaning eyeglasses or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Finger tapping, drumming, pointing or wagging are also signals to move on.
Stand Out
Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. Also, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.
Crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.
A Few Extra Tips
Hopefully by now you have an attack plan for when it's time to get down and dirty, or when it's best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:
You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.
Don't tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through with. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.
Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standingfor the body language game.
If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately.
Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate.
And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love."
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
7 Most Shocking Secrets Women doesn't Want Men to know
Women get jealous as hell
They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.
I am the sexiest of them all
Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men (like Princess Diana).
Am I fat
I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?
They always lie about shopping
They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.( even though the Chinese New Year sale just pass by)
What shoes are you wearing
If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.
Don't share secrets with them
If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeah when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.
They know when you are cheating
Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.
They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.
I am the sexiest of them all
Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men (like Princess Diana).
Am I fat
I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?
They always lie about shopping
They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.( even though the Chinese New Year sale just pass by)
What shoes are you wearing
If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.
Don't share secrets with them
If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeah when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.
They know when you are cheating
Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Girlz required to realise
We guys don't care if you talk to other guys.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
We don't care if a guy calls OR TEXTS you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 am that it can't wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open.
Take Advantage of the mood I'm in.
Let us pay for you!
Dont 'feel bad.
We enjoy doing it.
It's expected.
Smile and say "thank you".
Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.
You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's.
Or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up.
Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/'beautiful"
I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/stud/cutie/sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it either ; )
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change!
Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "I love you" ..and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
We don't care if a guy calls OR TEXTS you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 am that it can't wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open.
Take Advantage of the mood I'm in.
Let us pay for you!
Dont 'feel bad.
We enjoy doing it.
It's expected.
Smile and say "thank you".
Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.
You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's.
Or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up.
Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/'beautiful"
I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/stud/cutie/sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it either ; )
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change!
Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "I love you" ..and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
What should I Say?
Im writing this for the fact that im so miserable to one of my friend. Maybe its just me, feeling that way while the friend thinks it doesnt matter at all. Somehow, i have to admit that im very disturbed by my fault.
It may ruin our friendship. I guess.
We talked less than before. We used not more than 10 words in our messages and we no longer having laugh lines these days.
I didnt expect nor hoping this happened to me. I dont know how to explain. Im not changing, i dont have any problems, im okay.
Seriously, i dont know why.
Silence is the only choice i got now. So that i wont hurt anybody else or the friend, again.
It may ruin our friendship. I guess.
We talked less than before. We used not more than 10 words in our messages and we no longer having laugh lines these days.
I didnt expect nor hoping this happened to me. I dont know how to explain. Im not changing, i dont have any problems, im okay.
Seriously, i dont know why.
Silence is the only choice i got now. So that i wont hurt anybody else or the friend, again.
43 Things that A Girl wants us to know
1 When you break her heart, the pain never really goes away.
2 When she misses you, she's hurting inside.
3 When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
4 When she walks away from you mad, follow her.
5 When she stares at your mouth, kiss her.
6 When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don't let her go.
7 When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her.
8 When she ignores you, give her your attention.
9 When she pulls away, pull her back.
10 When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful.
11 When you see her crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
12 When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
13 When she's scared, protect her.
14 When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her.
15 When she steals your favourite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
16 When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
17 When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
18 When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth.
19 When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand.
20 When she grabs your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
21 When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
22 When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
23 When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does.
24 Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything.
25 Don't let her have the last word.
26 Don't call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is so much better.
27 Say you love her more than she could ever love you.
28 Argue that she is the best girl ever.
29 When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
30 When she says she's OK, don’t believe it, talk to
her about it, because 10 yrs later she'll still remember it.
31 Call her at 12:00am on special occasions to tell her you love her.
32 Call her before you sleep and after you wake up.
33 Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
34 Don't ignore her when she's out with you and your friends.
35 Stay up all night with her when she's sick.
36 Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid.
37 Let her into your world.
38 Let her wear your clothes.
39 When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
40 Let her know she's important.
41 Kiss her in the pouring rain.
42 When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"
43 After she reads this, she hopes one day you'd read it too.
2 When she misses you, she's hurting inside.
3 When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
4 When she walks away from you mad, follow her.
5 When she stares at your mouth, kiss her.
6 When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don't let her go.
7 When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her.
8 When she ignores you, give her your attention.
9 When she pulls away, pull her back.
10 When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful.
11 When you see her crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
12 When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
13 When she's scared, protect her.
14 When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her.
15 When she steals your favourite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
16 When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
17 When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
18 When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth.
19 When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand.
20 When she grabs your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
21 When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
22 When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
23 When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does.
24 Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything.
25 Don't let her have the last word.
26 Don't call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is so much better.
27 Say you love her more than she could ever love you.
28 Argue that she is the best girl ever.
29 When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
30 When she says she's OK, don’t believe it, talk to
her about it, because 10 yrs later she'll still remember it.
31 Call her at 12:00am on special occasions to tell her you love her.
32 Call her before you sleep and after you wake up.
33 Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
34 Don't ignore her when she's out with you and your friends.
35 Stay up all night with her when she's sick.
36 Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid.
37 Let her into your world.
38 Let her wear your clothes.
39 When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
40 Let her know she's important.
41 Kiss her in the pouring rain.
42 When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"
43 After she reads this, she hopes one day you'd read it too.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
No Boundaries
Seconds, hours, so many days
You know what you want, but long can you wait?
Every moment last forever
When you've lost your way.
What if my chances were already gone?
I started believing that I could be wrong
But you guve me one good reason
To fight and never walk away
So here I am, still holding on
With every step, you clim another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
There are no boundaries 2x
I fought to the limit, to stand on the edge
What if today is as good as it gets?
Don't know where the future's heading
But nothing's gonna bring me down
I've jumped every bridge and I've run every line
I risked being safe but I always knew why
I always knew why
So here I an, still holding on
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
You higher, you can go deeper
There are no boundaries above and beneath you
Break every rule cause' there's nothing between you
And your dreams
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
Yeah!
There are no boundaries
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
There are no boundaries x3
You know what you want, but long can you wait?
Every moment last forever
When you've lost your way.
What if my chances were already gone?
I started believing that I could be wrong
But you guve me one good reason
To fight and never walk away
So here I am, still holding on
With every step, you clim another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
There are no boundaries 2x
I fought to the limit, to stand on the edge
What if today is as good as it gets?
Don't know where the future's heading
But nothing's gonna bring me down
I've jumped every bridge and I've run every line
I risked being safe but I always knew why
I always knew why
So here I an, still holding on
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breathe, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
To get to that one thing
Just when you think the road is going nowhere
Just when you almost gave up on your dreams
They take you by the hand and show you that you can
You higher, you can go deeper
There are no boundaries above and beneath you
Break every rule cause' there's nothing between you
And your dreams
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
Yeah!
There are no boundaries
With every step, you climb another mountain
Every breath, it's harder to believe
You'll make it through the pain, weather the hurricanes
There are no boundaries x3
10 Ways to develop a high global business IQ
1. Be Comfortable with Change and Respond at Lightning Speed
Ask yourself this: can you embrace uncertainty and rise to the occasion? The world is shifting fast, and "speed rules," as a recent Fast Company article proclaims. Change is commonplace. You must be able to address any new inquiry and shift your company's resources (namely, you!) to accommodate it.
Peter Drucker, one of the best management minds of our time, declares, "One cannot manage change. One can only be ahead of it.” And as you create worldwide online connections, the need to be comfortable with change will become more acute.
2. Develop an All-Encompassing Perspective
You should be able to function well on both a small and large scale - to hone in on details, yet always comprehend the big picture, and keep pace with that picture as it changes. As Gary Hamel, author of "Leading The Revolution," puts it, "You are trying to find capabilities that transcend the traditional boundaries in an organization.”
One day you'll be trying to pin down just why Japanese women like the color pink and the next day you'll be sorting out how the drop in the peso will affect your latest acquisition in Mexico. You'll need to take in information, see its significance, and act on it.
3. Welcome New Experiences, Even Crises, for They Bring About a Positive Confrontation Between Different Perspectives.
Think of a crisis as a surprise. Even a relatively ordinary life will teach you that the world is full of them. When you welcome them, you are light-years ahead of those who have been trained to guard against them. As early as 1986, Lexicon Communication's President Steven Fink was taking the position that "a crisis is a turning point which offers as much opportunity as danger.”
These challenges - or opportunities, depending on how you view them - should be used to map out new directions for your creative energies. For example, as a global trader, you must always seek to improve yourself, your product, your business, and your world.
4. Adapt, Take Risks and Innovate
Adaptability means that, if you don't know how different markets operate, you find out - fast. You stay sensitive to the cultural values of other countries. And if things appear one way today and another tomorrow, you shift gears and work with conditions as you find them. Creating your strategy on your feet is the only way to do global business.
The more you risk, the greater your chances for success or failure, but either way, you're pushing your limits and extending your reach. There comes a point in every initiative when you must recognize the risks and move forward anyway. Remember, you learn the most from failure, so take what chances you can afford.
Keeping the mind fresh, fertile, and open to new perspectives - the prerequisites of innovation - is a must if you want to conduct business effectively worldwide. There are endless ways of opening your mind that you can get to work on right now. View as many web sites as humanly possible.
Beyond surfing the Net, take long walks in unfamiliar neighborhoods. See foreign films. Meet people in other professions. Join social groups that attract members of other nationalities. Don't withdraw when confronted with cultural differences - hang in there and ask yourself why you feel the way you do. This is real learning.
Give yourself a chance to discover your own unexamined values and assumptions, and you will find it a lot easier to accept others' unfamiliar way!
5. Travel to at Least One Foreign Country and Stay for Several Weeks - Preferably with a Native Family - and Desire to Return
Are you prepared to cultivate your international contacts? You better be for you cannot hide behind a great website or e-mail forever. Get on a plane, land yourself somewhere far from home, and teach yourself to adjust. Interact with the locals. Cultivate friendships. Watch, listen and learn. Ask a lot of questions. Live and breathe the environment. Do as the natives do. This is the best possible training for becoming a global businessperson.
6. Learn as Much as Possible About the Culture in Which You Are About to Do Business
Pay attention to etiquette, netiquette and protocol, and behave exactly as interpersonal situations dictate. One day you are a diplomat, the next a leader, and sometimes both. When your every move is subject to scrutiny, it's best to come equipped with the knowledge that will put you ahead of the game.
You can start by thinking about what makes you different from your next door neighbor. Then form the habit of doing the same thing on a citywide, nationwide, and worldwide scale. Try to understand how and why people from different ethnic and cultural backgrounds think and behave the way they do.
Assuming you don't have time for an extended foreign language course, visit a good brick-and-mortar or online store that specializes in cultural nuances. Two are Savvy Traveler and Rand McNally. Here, you can buy books and audio cassette tapes to help you learn about the economy, dress, language, cuisine, etiquette, and other vital statistics of just about any country in the world.
7. Maintain Passion, Enthusiasm, Playfulness and Curiosity
Show your business associates that you value every negotiation as if it is a matter of life or death. Let your e-mails communicate how intensely you care. Let them see that you are passionate about what you are building together, along with a healthy dose of enthusiasm. These traits are contagious and irresistible - they draw people to you no matter where in the world you are.
Want to fill yourself with passion and enthusiasm? Remember what it was like to be a kid? Spontaneous, free, not a care in the world? Want to bring it on now? Visit happypuppy or Hotwired's Animation Express. In your day-to-day dealings, let some of that powerful playfulness show. Use it carefully - there's obviously a time for play and a time for seriousness. Bringing a judicious helping of childlike joy and high good humor to your business communications can sometimes make or break an international deal.
Finally, show your eagerness to discover more, to do more, to push the limits of the known. You need curiosity to drive you in search of "more." Your passion, enthusiasm and playfulness need somewhere to go.
Take the next step, go the extra mile, and wonder what if, what's next, what's possible. Curiosity didn't kill the cat, and it won't kill you, either. It can only give you a bigger and better life.
8. Know Yourself Well Before You Present Yourself in the International Arena
In the article "All the Right Moves" (Fast Company, Issue 24, page 192), Anna Luoio talks about how chess is a game of thinking ahead, quickly and under pressure. Luoio proposes that the most important forms of intelligence - in chess and in life - are the ability to read other people and the ability to understand oneself.
Getting ready to undertake an online global business is a very similar game. You must know yourself well enough to anticipate how you will react in new and difficult circumstances. You must be able to exercise self-control. You must develop inner security by counting yourself as valuable apart from your successes or failures.
When you know yourself well, you are able to build connections with others by listening, empathizing and understanding. The people skills that are so essential for cultivating relationships in the global e-marketplace start with the positive relationship you cultivate with yourself.
9. Store Enormous Reserves of Energy Along with Patience and stick-to-it-Iveness
It's great to be an aggressive, energetic mover-and-shaker, but just as important to know when to slow down and let a negotiation take its own course. Real business breakthroughs don't come easily or quickly on the domestic front, and in the global market it's a thousand times more difficult. You must deliver long-term value in terms of product quality and customer service while building and maintaining the alliances a global market demands, and you must expect it to take a lot of time.
Stick-to-it-iveness is vital if you are going to maintain the committed effort needed to make things work. Don't quit before you have to just because you lack the nerve to keep up your efforts when there's no payoff in sight. Persevering through the discouraging, nerve-racking times will give you strength and confidence to carry you through even bolder efforts in the future.
10. Own Courage--Because Freedom in This World Is Born from Courage.
Going forward with anything about which you have even the smallest doubt takes courage. Responding to that German customer who wants 20,000 widgets when you don't know how you are going to serve them takes courage. Putting your reputation on the line and making up your mind to deal with the consequences takes courage. Staying true to your vision and your mission - in this case, going global - in the face of criticism and opposition takes courage. But if you can somehow call it up when you need it, your rewards will be extraordinary.
Ask yourself this: can you embrace uncertainty and rise to the occasion? The world is shifting fast, and "speed rules," as a recent Fast Company article proclaims. Change is commonplace. You must be able to address any new inquiry and shift your company's resources (namely, you!) to accommodate it.
Peter Drucker, one of the best management minds of our time, declares, "One cannot manage change. One can only be ahead of it.” And as you create worldwide online connections, the need to be comfortable with change will become more acute.
2. Develop an All-Encompassing Perspective
You should be able to function well on both a small and large scale - to hone in on details, yet always comprehend the big picture, and keep pace with that picture as it changes. As Gary Hamel, author of "Leading The Revolution," puts it, "You are trying to find capabilities that transcend the traditional boundaries in an organization.”
One day you'll be trying to pin down just why Japanese women like the color pink and the next day you'll be sorting out how the drop in the peso will affect your latest acquisition in Mexico. You'll need to take in information, see its significance, and act on it.
3. Welcome New Experiences, Even Crises, for They Bring About a Positive Confrontation Between Different Perspectives.
Think of a crisis as a surprise. Even a relatively ordinary life will teach you that the world is full of them. When you welcome them, you are light-years ahead of those who have been trained to guard against them. As early as 1986, Lexicon Communication's President Steven Fink was taking the position that "a crisis is a turning point which offers as much opportunity as danger.”
These challenges - or opportunities, depending on how you view them - should be used to map out new directions for your creative energies. For example, as a global trader, you must always seek to improve yourself, your product, your business, and your world.
4. Adapt, Take Risks and Innovate
Adaptability means that, if you don't know how different markets operate, you find out - fast. You stay sensitive to the cultural values of other countries. And if things appear one way today and another tomorrow, you shift gears and work with conditions as you find them. Creating your strategy on your feet is the only way to do global business.
The more you risk, the greater your chances for success or failure, but either way, you're pushing your limits and extending your reach. There comes a point in every initiative when you must recognize the risks and move forward anyway. Remember, you learn the most from failure, so take what chances you can afford.
Keeping the mind fresh, fertile, and open to new perspectives - the prerequisites of innovation - is a must if you want to conduct business effectively worldwide. There are endless ways of opening your mind that you can get to work on right now. View as many web sites as humanly possible.
Beyond surfing the Net, take long walks in unfamiliar neighborhoods. See foreign films. Meet people in other professions. Join social groups that attract members of other nationalities. Don't withdraw when confronted with cultural differences - hang in there and ask yourself why you feel the way you do. This is real learning.
Give yourself a chance to discover your own unexamined values and assumptions, and you will find it a lot easier to accept others' unfamiliar way!
5. Travel to at Least One Foreign Country and Stay for Several Weeks - Preferably with a Native Family - and Desire to Return
Are you prepared to cultivate your international contacts? You better be for you cannot hide behind a great website or e-mail forever. Get on a plane, land yourself somewhere far from home, and teach yourself to adjust. Interact with the locals. Cultivate friendships. Watch, listen and learn. Ask a lot of questions. Live and breathe the environment. Do as the natives do. This is the best possible training for becoming a global businessperson.
6. Learn as Much as Possible About the Culture in Which You Are About to Do Business
Pay attention to etiquette, netiquette and protocol, and behave exactly as interpersonal situations dictate. One day you are a diplomat, the next a leader, and sometimes both. When your every move is subject to scrutiny, it's best to come equipped with the knowledge that will put you ahead of the game.
You can start by thinking about what makes you different from your next door neighbor. Then form the habit of doing the same thing on a citywide, nationwide, and worldwide scale. Try to understand how and why people from different ethnic and cultural backgrounds think and behave the way they do.
Assuming you don't have time for an extended foreign language course, visit a good brick-and-mortar or online store that specializes in cultural nuances. Two are Savvy Traveler and Rand McNally. Here, you can buy books and audio cassette tapes to help you learn about the economy, dress, language, cuisine, etiquette, and other vital statistics of just about any country in the world.
7. Maintain Passion, Enthusiasm, Playfulness and Curiosity
Show your business associates that you value every negotiation as if it is a matter of life or death. Let your e-mails communicate how intensely you care. Let them see that you are passionate about what you are building together, along with a healthy dose of enthusiasm. These traits are contagious and irresistible - they draw people to you no matter where in the world you are.
Want to fill yourself with passion and enthusiasm? Remember what it was like to be a kid? Spontaneous, free, not a care in the world? Want to bring it on now? Visit happypuppy or Hotwired's Animation Express. In your day-to-day dealings, let some of that powerful playfulness show. Use it carefully - there's obviously a time for play and a time for seriousness. Bringing a judicious helping of childlike joy and high good humor to your business communications can sometimes make or break an international deal.
Finally, show your eagerness to discover more, to do more, to push the limits of the known. You need curiosity to drive you in search of "more." Your passion, enthusiasm and playfulness need somewhere to go.
Take the next step, go the extra mile, and wonder what if, what's next, what's possible. Curiosity didn't kill the cat, and it won't kill you, either. It can only give you a bigger and better life.
8. Know Yourself Well Before You Present Yourself in the International Arena
In the article "All the Right Moves" (Fast Company, Issue 24, page 192), Anna Luoio talks about how chess is a game of thinking ahead, quickly and under pressure. Luoio proposes that the most important forms of intelligence - in chess and in life - are the ability to read other people and the ability to understand oneself.
Getting ready to undertake an online global business is a very similar game. You must know yourself well enough to anticipate how you will react in new and difficult circumstances. You must be able to exercise self-control. You must develop inner security by counting yourself as valuable apart from your successes or failures.
When you know yourself well, you are able to build connections with others by listening, empathizing and understanding. The people skills that are so essential for cultivating relationships in the global e-marketplace start with the positive relationship you cultivate with yourself.
9. Store Enormous Reserves of Energy Along with Patience and stick-to-it-Iveness
It's great to be an aggressive, energetic mover-and-shaker, but just as important to know when to slow down and let a negotiation take its own course. Real business breakthroughs don't come easily or quickly on the domestic front, and in the global market it's a thousand times more difficult. You must deliver long-term value in terms of product quality and customer service while building and maintaining the alliances a global market demands, and you must expect it to take a lot of time.
Stick-to-it-iveness is vital if you are going to maintain the committed effort needed to make things work. Don't quit before you have to just because you lack the nerve to keep up your efforts when there's no payoff in sight. Persevering through the discouraging, nerve-racking times will give you strength and confidence to carry you through even bolder efforts in the future.
10. Own Courage--Because Freedom in This World Is Born from Courage.
Going forward with anything about which you have even the smallest doubt takes courage. Responding to that German customer who wants 20,000 widgets when you don't know how you are going to serve them takes courage. Putting your reputation on the line and making up your mind to deal with the consequences takes courage. Staying true to your vision and your mission - in this case, going global - in the face of criticism and opposition takes courage. But if you can somehow call it up when you need it, your rewards will be extraordinary.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Can your computer make you happy?
In sci-fi films, when anyone gives a computer emotions, it all goes horribly wrong. The computer becomes vain, doubtful and irrational and Armageddon by wayward technology is only narrowly avoided. Yet machines that can recognise our emotions and respond to them are a hot new area in computer design.
We're not talking about handing a global missile defence system over to a PC with a lot of feelings, but we are talking about improving the interface between humans and computers by making computers easier and more intuitive to interact with. For example, computers that sense when a user is getting frustrated could try a different way of explaining how to troubleshoot the internet connection. Cars that can tell when a driver is about to fall asleep could sound an alarm.
Though computers have become more attuned to how humans behave, there are still glitches in communication. Your PC may have the processing power of a small space station from the Seventies, but it can't tell if you're upset. Building an awareness of human emotions into computers would be very beneficial, whether it's through facial and smile recognition, through analysing the words you say or type, or monitoring the pitch of your voice or the style of your gestures.
The laboratory for Affective Computing at The Massachusetts Institute of Technology puts it like this: "Emotion is fundamental to human experience, influencing cognition, perception, and everyday tasks such as learning, communication, and even rational decision-making. However, technologists have largely ignored emotion and created an often-frustrating experience for people, in part because affect has been misunderstood and is hard to measure."
A computer doesn't know that you're frustrated; it just knows you're doing it wrong. Currently, you need to be a human to detect that sort of thing – or at least a dog. But there are some distinct commercial advantages in making emotional computers.
At the Consumer Electronics Show last month, Asus (creator of the Eee PC) revealed a range of concept computers called Waveface. It features a watch, a laptop and a TV, and as well as touchscreens and high-definition images these futuristic candy-coloured gadgets promised emotional intelligence.
"Every element in the user's environment, even down to the user's own physiology and emotional state, can be sources of data to help deliver the right information and services at the right time," is how Asus described its new wunder products. Jonney Shih, CEO of Asus, explains what that means. But it is not, it turns out, sessions where you tell the TV about your feelings.
Shih anticipates a future where the office, the home and the public space are all connected by cloud computing. The internet will be accessible everywhere and the amount of information on the internet will only grow.
"So much information now is available from the internet, from the cloud," he says, "so the challenge now is how to screen or filter that information so that you can get it when you really need it." Asus's Waveface products will use data about you (from where you are to your emotional state) to help tailor the information and services it offers to what's relevant to your particular situation.
To this end, Asus has a concept of an intelligent agent, a sort of invisible avatar for the user, that is built into the computer interface and acts on the user's behalf.
"We have what we sometimes call the intelligent agent," explains Shih, "which tries to help you get what you need at the right time and the right place. The goal is to achieve real-time, real-place and real-human information. Making sure that you always know where you are, know where your friends are, know your parking space and points of interest to you: restaurants, meeting places."
The details of the Waveface products are still shrouded in manufacturer secrecy, but we can expect them on the market in three to five years. But it is not just computer manufacturers who are intrigued by the new interactivity.
Other companies putting money into this area include car manufacturers. Toyota hit the headlines in 2005 with the Pod, an experimental car which signalled the mood of its driver to other road users by brightening, dimming or colouring the headlights. The car was embedded with voice recognition software by Scottish company Affective Media which uses the tone and the pitch of the voice as indicators of the driver's emotion.
As well as altering the headlights, if the car judged the driver to be stressed it would release soothing perfume, flick on some mellow music and perhaps suggest a less-congested route. If it sensed a driver was about to doze off, it would wake them with an alarm.
"Stressed drivers are bad drivers," says Ray Warde, CEO of Affective Media, "and so is a person about to fall asleep.
"The voice of a driver gives a lot of information about the way they are actually behaving at the time," he explains. "At the moment only certain models of cars will talk to the driver but that will become more common and drivers will start to control cars through speech recognition."
There are innumerable ways car or mobile-phone makers could incorporate this software into their devices.
While manufacturers and money men consider the commercial uses of emotionally-intelligent computers, academics such as Dr Russell Beale, a senior lecturer in Computer Science at Birmingham University, take a broader view on why it's useful for computers to be able to detect our emotions and then respond as if they too were emotional beings. We already treat computers like they have feelings. Beale mentions a seminal book by two scientists called Reeves and Nass, The Media Equation: how people treat computers, TV and New Media like Real People and Real Places, which was published in 1998. The book describes a psychological experiment showing that people treated computers (at that time, standard Nineties terminals with green lights on a screen) as if they were social beings – as if the machines had emotions and personality.
"Without these systems trying to be sensitive or 'affective' in any way" Beale says, "people were still viewing the computer as if it had responses and they didn't want to upset it.
"Since then," he explains, "people have realised that when you're dealing with an interactive system the more interactive it gets – the more you start thinking, 'Oh, this is how I interact with people.' That makes you think about the aspects of interaction that are missing and emotion is obviously one of them."
The second reason is engagement. "Research so far has shown that people are more engaged with a system that seems to demonstrate emotional responses," Beale says. "It makes people more caught up in the interaction that's happening, whether you're talking about games or learning or healthcare systems."
There are social uses for emotional technology. Beale is working on projects that use emotional computers to help people: from getting them to eat healthily to giving up drugs.
However, there are limits to where we want emotional computing. It's a question of context. "People often say 'it's going to be much better dealing with interactive computers because it's going to understand me better', but frequently we use computers simply as tools," Beale says. "If you're writing an urgent report you don't want Microsoft Word saying to you, 'You seem a bit stressed, would you like to take a break?' You'd be like, 'No, I've got a deadline.' Sometimes you just want systems to respond as tools."
He cites the Microsoft paperclip as an example of an inappropriate intervention. "It would ask you sensible stuff, but for most people, it kept popping up at the wrong time and getting in the way."
Yet there other cases such as teaching and sports coaching when emotional response, whether encouraging or slightly negative, will boost performance. Beale gets to the heart of the emotional computer: "In the same way that it's easier talking to someone who has empathy with what you're saying, who gives you extra responses apart from just a straightforward verbal reply, it makes our everyday interactions much easier.
"In the right cases, putting empathy into computer systems is really going to help."
We're not talking about handing a global missile defence system over to a PC with a lot of feelings, but we are talking about improving the interface between humans and computers by making computers easier and more intuitive to interact with. For example, computers that sense when a user is getting frustrated could try a different way of explaining how to troubleshoot the internet connection. Cars that can tell when a driver is about to fall asleep could sound an alarm.
Though computers have become more attuned to how humans behave, there are still glitches in communication. Your PC may have the processing power of a small space station from the Seventies, but it can't tell if you're upset. Building an awareness of human emotions into computers would be very beneficial, whether it's through facial and smile recognition, through analysing the words you say or type, or monitoring the pitch of your voice or the style of your gestures.
The laboratory for Affective Computing at The Massachusetts Institute of Technology puts it like this: "Emotion is fundamental to human experience, influencing cognition, perception, and everyday tasks such as learning, communication, and even rational decision-making. However, technologists have largely ignored emotion and created an often-frustrating experience for people, in part because affect has been misunderstood and is hard to measure."
A computer doesn't know that you're frustrated; it just knows you're doing it wrong. Currently, you need to be a human to detect that sort of thing – or at least a dog. But there are some distinct commercial advantages in making emotional computers.
At the Consumer Electronics Show last month, Asus (creator of the Eee PC) revealed a range of concept computers called Waveface. It features a watch, a laptop and a TV, and as well as touchscreens and high-definition images these futuristic candy-coloured gadgets promised emotional intelligence.
"Every element in the user's environment, even down to the user's own physiology and emotional state, can be sources of data to help deliver the right information and services at the right time," is how Asus described its new wunder products. Jonney Shih, CEO of Asus, explains what that means. But it is not, it turns out, sessions where you tell the TV about your feelings.
Shih anticipates a future where the office, the home and the public space are all connected by cloud computing. The internet will be accessible everywhere and the amount of information on the internet will only grow.
"So much information now is available from the internet, from the cloud," he says, "so the challenge now is how to screen or filter that information so that you can get it when you really need it." Asus's Waveface products will use data about you (from where you are to your emotional state) to help tailor the information and services it offers to what's relevant to your particular situation.
To this end, Asus has a concept of an intelligent agent, a sort of invisible avatar for the user, that is built into the computer interface and acts on the user's behalf.
"We have what we sometimes call the intelligent agent," explains Shih, "which tries to help you get what you need at the right time and the right place. The goal is to achieve real-time, real-place and real-human information. Making sure that you always know where you are, know where your friends are, know your parking space and points of interest to you: restaurants, meeting places."
The details of the Waveface products are still shrouded in manufacturer secrecy, but we can expect them on the market in three to five years. But it is not just computer manufacturers who are intrigued by the new interactivity.
Other companies putting money into this area include car manufacturers. Toyota hit the headlines in 2005 with the Pod, an experimental car which signalled the mood of its driver to other road users by brightening, dimming or colouring the headlights. The car was embedded with voice recognition software by Scottish company Affective Media which uses the tone and the pitch of the voice as indicators of the driver's emotion.
As well as altering the headlights, if the car judged the driver to be stressed it would release soothing perfume, flick on some mellow music and perhaps suggest a less-congested route. If it sensed a driver was about to doze off, it would wake them with an alarm.
"Stressed drivers are bad drivers," says Ray Warde, CEO of Affective Media, "and so is a person about to fall asleep.
"The voice of a driver gives a lot of information about the way they are actually behaving at the time," he explains. "At the moment only certain models of cars will talk to the driver but that will become more common and drivers will start to control cars through speech recognition."
There are innumerable ways car or mobile-phone makers could incorporate this software into their devices.
While manufacturers and money men consider the commercial uses of emotionally-intelligent computers, academics such as Dr Russell Beale, a senior lecturer in Computer Science at Birmingham University, take a broader view on why it's useful for computers to be able to detect our emotions and then respond as if they too were emotional beings. We already treat computers like they have feelings. Beale mentions a seminal book by two scientists called Reeves and Nass, The Media Equation: how people treat computers, TV and New Media like Real People and Real Places, which was published in 1998. The book describes a psychological experiment showing that people treated computers (at that time, standard Nineties terminals with green lights on a screen) as if they were social beings – as if the machines had emotions and personality.
"Without these systems trying to be sensitive or 'affective' in any way" Beale says, "people were still viewing the computer as if it had responses and they didn't want to upset it.
"Since then," he explains, "people have realised that when you're dealing with an interactive system the more interactive it gets – the more you start thinking, 'Oh, this is how I interact with people.' That makes you think about the aspects of interaction that are missing and emotion is obviously one of them."
The second reason is engagement. "Research so far has shown that people are more engaged with a system that seems to demonstrate emotional responses," Beale says. "It makes people more caught up in the interaction that's happening, whether you're talking about games or learning or healthcare systems."
There are social uses for emotional technology. Beale is working on projects that use emotional computers to help people: from getting them to eat healthily to giving up drugs.
However, there are limits to where we want emotional computing. It's a question of context. "People often say 'it's going to be much better dealing with interactive computers because it's going to understand me better', but frequently we use computers simply as tools," Beale says. "If you're writing an urgent report you don't want Microsoft Word saying to you, 'You seem a bit stressed, would you like to take a break?' You'd be like, 'No, I've got a deadline.' Sometimes you just want systems to respond as tools."
He cites the Microsoft paperclip as an example of an inappropriate intervention. "It would ask you sensible stuff, but for most people, it kept popping up at the wrong time and getting in the way."
Yet there other cases such as teaching and sports coaching when emotional response, whether encouraging or slightly negative, will boost performance. Beale gets to the heart of the emotional computer: "In the same way that it's easier talking to someone who has empathy with what you're saying, who gives you extra responses apart from just a straightforward verbal reply, it makes our everyday interactions much easier.
"In the right cases, putting empathy into computer systems is really going to help."
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Untitled
I can't go any further then this
I want you so badly, it's my biggest wish
I spent my time just thinkin thinkin thinkin bout you
Every single day yes, I'm really missin' missin' you
And all those things we use to use to use to do
Hey girl, what's up, it use to be just me and you
I spent my time just thinkin thinkin thinkin bout you
Every single day, yes I'm really missin missin you
And all those things we use to use to use to do
Hey girl what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up
Meet me halfway, right at the boarderline
That's where I'm gonna wait, for you
I'll be lookin out, night n'day
Took my heart to the limit, and this is where I'll stay
I can't go any further then this
I want you so bad it's my only wish
Girl, I travel round the world and even sail the seven seas
Across the universe I go to other galexies
Just tell me where you want, just tell me where you wanna to meet
I navigate myself myself to take me where you be
Cause girl I want, I, I, I want you right now
I travel uptown (town) I travel downtown
I wanna to have you around (round) like every single day
I love you alway... way
Can you meet me half way (I'll meet you halfway)
Right at the boarderline
That's where I'm gonna wait, for you
I'll be lookin out, night n'day
Took my heart to the limit, and this is where I'll stay
I can't go any further then this
I want you so bad it's my only wish
I can't go any further then this
I want you so bad it's my only wish
Let's walk the bridge, to the other side
Just you and I (just you and I)
I will fly, I'll fly the skies, for you and I (for you and I)
I will try, until I die, for you and I, for you and I, for for you and I,
For for you and I, for for you and I, for you and I
I want you so badly, it's my biggest wish
I spent my time just thinkin thinkin thinkin bout you
Every single day yes, I'm really missin' missin' you
And all those things we use to use to use to do
Hey girl, what's up, it use to be just me and you
I spent my time just thinkin thinkin thinkin bout you
Every single day, yes I'm really missin missin you
And all those things we use to use to use to do
Hey girl what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up
Meet me halfway, right at the boarderline
That's where I'm gonna wait, for you
I'll be lookin out, night n'day
Took my heart to the limit, and this is where I'll stay
I can't go any further then this
I want you so bad it's my only wish
Girl, I travel round the world and even sail the seven seas
Across the universe I go to other galexies
Just tell me where you want, just tell me where you wanna to meet
I navigate myself myself to take me where you be
Cause girl I want, I, I, I want you right now
I travel uptown (town) I travel downtown
I wanna to have you around (round) like every single day
I love you alway... way
Can you meet me half way (I'll meet you halfway)
Right at the boarderline
That's where I'm gonna wait, for you
I'll be lookin out, night n'day
Took my heart to the limit, and this is where I'll stay
I can't go any further then this
I want you so bad it's my only wish
I can't go any further then this
I want you so bad it's my only wish
Let's walk the bridge, to the other side
Just you and I (just you and I)
I will fly, I'll fly the skies, for you and I (for you and I)
I will try, until I die, for you and I, for you and I, for for you and I,
For for you and I, for for you and I, for you and I
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Debat Professor Aties dgn Seorang Pelajar
Seorang atheist yang juga professor falsafah bercerita dalam kuliahnya mengenai masalah yang dihadapi oleh sains berkenaan dengan Tuhan. Dia meminta seorang pelajarnya bangun dan beliau bertanya…
Prof: Kamu percayakan Tuhan?
Pelajar: Sudah semestinya professor.
Prof: Adakah Tuhan itu baik?
Pelajar: Ya
Prof: Adakah Tuhan itu amat berkuasa?
Pelajar: Ya
Prof: Saudara saya meninggal kerana kanser walaupun dia berdoa kepada Tuhan agar dia boleh sembuh. Kebanyakan kita akan cuba membantu mereka yang sedang sakit tetapi Tuhan tidak. Jadi macamana Tuhan itu baik? Hmmm?
(Pelajar berdiam diri)
Prof: Kamu tidak boleh menjawabnya ya? Mari kita teruskan lagi anak muda. Adakah Tuhan baik?
Pelajar: Ya.
Prof: Adakah syaitan baik?
Pelajar: Tidak.
Prof: Siapa yang mencipta syaitan?
Pelajar: Tuhan.
Prof: Tepat sekali, beritahu saya anak muda, wujudkah kejahatan didunia ini?
Pelajar: Ya.
Prof: Kejahatan ada dimana2 bukan? Dan Tuhan mencipta semuanya, betul?
Pelajar: Ya.
Prof: Jadi siapa yang mencipta kejahatan?
(Pelajar tidak menjawab)
Prof: Bukankah terdapat penyakit? Keruntuhan moral? Kebencian? Keburukan? Semua perkara yang dasyat ini wujud didunia ini bukan?
Pelajar: Ya professor.
Prof: Siapa yang menciptanya?
(Pelajar tiada jawapan untuknya)
Prof: Science menyatakan yang kamu ada 5 deria untuk mengenalpasti dan melihat dunia disekeliling kamu, baeritahu saya anak muda, pernahkah kamu melihat Tuhan?
Student: Tidak pernah professor.
Prof: Sila beritahu jika kamu pernah mendengar akan Tuhan itu?
Pelajar: Tidak pernah professor.
Prof: Pernahkah kamu perasankan akan Tuhan itu? rasaiNya, menghiduNya? Adakah pada kamu itu apa2 deria yang boleh membuat kamu kenal akan Tuhan itu?
Pelajar: Tiada professor, saya tidak pernah mengalaminya.
Prof: Dan kamu masih percayakan Tuhan itu?
Pelajar: Ya professor.
Prof: Berdasarkan kepada pemerhatian, pada kajian, pada suatu yang boleh didemonstrasikan, sains menyatakan yang Tuhan itu tidak wujud. Apa pendapat kamu mengenainya?
Pelajar: Saya tidak boleh berkata apa2 professor, saya hanya ada kepercayaan dan keimanan kepada Tuhan itu sendiri.
Prof: Ya.. percaya.. iman, itulah dia masalah yang dihadapi oleh sains.
(Pelajar termenung dan berfikir lantas bersuara..)
Pelajar: Professor, wujudkan apa yang dipanggil panas?
Prof: Ya.
Pelajar: Dan juga apa yang dipanggil sejuk?
Prof: Ya.
Pelajar: Tidak professor, tidak ada sebenarnya apa yang di panggil sejuk itu.
(Semua didalam dewan kuliah terdiam)
Pelajar: Professor, kita boleh ada banyak haba kepanasan, panas yang teramat sangat, yang sedikit atau pun tiada kepanasan. Sebenarnya kita tiada apa yang dipanggil sejuk. Kita boleh mencapai 458 darjah dibawah takat beku tetapi kita tidak boleh pergi rendah daripada itu. Sebenarnya tiada apa yang dipanggil sejuk. Kepanasan itu adalah tenaga, sejuk bukanlah lawan kepada panas, hanya ketiadaan panas itu sendiri.
(Dewan kuliah menjadi sunyi sepi)
Pelajar: Bagaimana pula dengan kegelapan? Adakah wujud apa yang dipanggil gelap itu?
Professor: Apalah malam jika tiada kegelapan?
Pelajar: Sekali lagi professor silap. Kegelapan hanyalah ketiadaan sesuatu. Kita boleh ada cahaya yang malap, cahaya normal, cahaya terang, cahaya berkilau… tetapi jika kita tiada cahaya, itu yang dipanggil kegelapan. Realitinya "gelap" itu tidak wujud. Kita tidak boleh membuatkan gelap itu menjadi semakin bertambah gelap bukan?
Prof: Jadi apa sebenar yang kamu ingin sampaikan disini?
Pelajar: Apa yang saya ingin nyatakan adalah, falsafah professor itu salah.
Prof: Salah? Bolehkah kamu jelaskannya?
Pelajar: Profesor membuat perhitungan menggunakan konsep yang berlawan, antara hidup dan mati, Tuhan yang baik dan tidak. Professor melihat konsep ketuhanan itu pada suatu yang nyata, sesuatu yang boleh kita ukur. Professor, sains masih tidak boleh menjelaskan dari mana datangya "ruh atau nyawa" dan apakah "minda" atau "fikiran" itu sendiri. Sains menggunakan elektrik dan magnetism tetapi ianya suatu yang tidak kelihatan dan nyata, malah kita masih tidak memahaminya secara keseluruhan. Untuk melihat mati itu sebagai lawan kepada kepada hidup adalah sesuatu yang tidak tepat kerana sebenarnya mati tidak wujud sebagai suatu bentuk yang nyata. Mati itu bukan lawan kepada hidup, mati hanyalah ketiadaan apa yang memberi kehidupan itu sendiri iaitu nyawa.
Sekarang beritahu saya professor, adakah kamu mengajar bahawa manusia asalnya dari monyet?
Prof: Jika kamu rujuk kepada proses evolusi semulajadi, ya.
Pelajar: Pernahkah professor melihat evolusi itu sendiri?
(Professor menggeleng kepala dan tersenyum kerana mula merasakan perbincangan ini semakin hebat)
Pelajar: Disebabkan tiada siapa pernah melihat proses evolusi itu sendiri sedang berjalan dan tidak boleh membuktikan yang ianya adalah suatu proses yang berlaku secara berterusan, adakah professor mengajar pendapat professor sahaja? Adakah professor saintis atau penceramah?
(Dewan kuliah menjadi gempar)
Pelajar: Ada tak sesiapa didalam dewan ini pernah melihat otak professor?
(Pelajar lain tertawa)
Pelajar: Ada tak sesiapa yang perasan akan otak professor itu? Rasainya, menghidunya? Saya pasti tiada siapa yang pernah berbuat demikian… jadi berdasarkan kepada pemerhatian, pada kajian, pada suatu yang boleh didemonstrasikan, sains menyatakan yang otak professor tidak wujud. Maaf saya katakan, bagaimana kami semua boleh percayakan kuliah2 professor selama ini?
(Seluruh dewan menjadi senyap.. Professor merenung lama kepada pelajar tersebut)
Prof: Saya rasa kamu semua hanya perlu percayakan kepadanya.
Pelajar: Itulah dia professor, hubungan antara manusia dan Tuhan adalah kepercayaan dan keimanannya dan itulah yang membuatkan kita dan seluruh alam ini hidup dan berfungsi sepertinya.
Prof: Kamu percayakan Tuhan?
Pelajar: Sudah semestinya professor.
Prof: Adakah Tuhan itu baik?
Pelajar: Ya
Prof: Adakah Tuhan itu amat berkuasa?
Pelajar: Ya
Prof: Saudara saya meninggal kerana kanser walaupun dia berdoa kepada Tuhan agar dia boleh sembuh. Kebanyakan kita akan cuba membantu mereka yang sedang sakit tetapi Tuhan tidak. Jadi macamana Tuhan itu baik? Hmmm?
(Pelajar berdiam diri)
Prof: Kamu tidak boleh menjawabnya ya? Mari kita teruskan lagi anak muda. Adakah Tuhan baik?
Pelajar: Ya.
Prof: Adakah syaitan baik?
Pelajar: Tidak.
Prof: Siapa yang mencipta syaitan?
Pelajar: Tuhan.
Prof: Tepat sekali, beritahu saya anak muda, wujudkah kejahatan didunia ini?
Pelajar: Ya.
Prof: Kejahatan ada dimana2 bukan? Dan Tuhan mencipta semuanya, betul?
Pelajar: Ya.
Prof: Jadi siapa yang mencipta kejahatan?
(Pelajar tidak menjawab)
Prof: Bukankah terdapat penyakit? Keruntuhan moral? Kebencian? Keburukan? Semua perkara yang dasyat ini wujud didunia ini bukan?
Pelajar: Ya professor.
Prof: Siapa yang menciptanya?
(Pelajar tiada jawapan untuknya)
Prof: Science menyatakan yang kamu ada 5 deria untuk mengenalpasti dan melihat dunia disekeliling kamu, baeritahu saya anak muda, pernahkah kamu melihat Tuhan?
Student: Tidak pernah professor.
Prof: Sila beritahu jika kamu pernah mendengar akan Tuhan itu?
Pelajar: Tidak pernah professor.
Prof: Pernahkah kamu perasankan akan Tuhan itu? rasaiNya, menghiduNya? Adakah pada kamu itu apa2 deria yang boleh membuat kamu kenal akan Tuhan itu?
Pelajar: Tiada professor, saya tidak pernah mengalaminya.
Prof: Dan kamu masih percayakan Tuhan itu?
Pelajar: Ya professor.
Prof: Berdasarkan kepada pemerhatian, pada kajian, pada suatu yang boleh didemonstrasikan, sains menyatakan yang Tuhan itu tidak wujud. Apa pendapat kamu mengenainya?
Pelajar: Saya tidak boleh berkata apa2 professor, saya hanya ada kepercayaan dan keimanan kepada Tuhan itu sendiri.
Prof: Ya.. percaya.. iman, itulah dia masalah yang dihadapi oleh sains.
(Pelajar termenung dan berfikir lantas bersuara..)
Pelajar: Professor, wujudkan apa yang dipanggil panas?
Prof: Ya.
Pelajar: Dan juga apa yang dipanggil sejuk?
Prof: Ya.
Pelajar: Tidak professor, tidak ada sebenarnya apa yang di panggil sejuk itu.
(Semua didalam dewan kuliah terdiam)
Pelajar: Professor, kita boleh ada banyak haba kepanasan, panas yang teramat sangat, yang sedikit atau pun tiada kepanasan. Sebenarnya kita tiada apa yang dipanggil sejuk. Kita boleh mencapai 458 darjah dibawah takat beku tetapi kita tidak boleh pergi rendah daripada itu. Sebenarnya tiada apa yang dipanggil sejuk. Kepanasan itu adalah tenaga, sejuk bukanlah lawan kepada panas, hanya ketiadaan panas itu sendiri.
(Dewan kuliah menjadi sunyi sepi)
Pelajar: Bagaimana pula dengan kegelapan? Adakah wujud apa yang dipanggil gelap itu?
Professor: Apalah malam jika tiada kegelapan?
Pelajar: Sekali lagi professor silap. Kegelapan hanyalah ketiadaan sesuatu. Kita boleh ada cahaya yang malap, cahaya normal, cahaya terang, cahaya berkilau… tetapi jika kita tiada cahaya, itu yang dipanggil kegelapan. Realitinya "gelap" itu tidak wujud. Kita tidak boleh membuatkan gelap itu menjadi semakin bertambah gelap bukan?
Prof: Jadi apa sebenar yang kamu ingin sampaikan disini?
Pelajar: Apa yang saya ingin nyatakan adalah, falsafah professor itu salah.
Prof: Salah? Bolehkah kamu jelaskannya?
Pelajar: Profesor membuat perhitungan menggunakan konsep yang berlawan, antara hidup dan mati, Tuhan yang baik dan tidak. Professor melihat konsep ketuhanan itu pada suatu yang nyata, sesuatu yang boleh kita ukur. Professor, sains masih tidak boleh menjelaskan dari mana datangya "ruh atau nyawa" dan apakah "minda" atau "fikiran" itu sendiri. Sains menggunakan elektrik dan magnetism tetapi ianya suatu yang tidak kelihatan dan nyata, malah kita masih tidak memahaminya secara keseluruhan. Untuk melihat mati itu sebagai lawan kepada kepada hidup adalah sesuatu yang tidak tepat kerana sebenarnya mati tidak wujud sebagai suatu bentuk yang nyata. Mati itu bukan lawan kepada hidup, mati hanyalah ketiadaan apa yang memberi kehidupan itu sendiri iaitu nyawa.
Sekarang beritahu saya professor, adakah kamu mengajar bahawa manusia asalnya dari monyet?
Prof: Jika kamu rujuk kepada proses evolusi semulajadi, ya.
Pelajar: Pernahkah professor melihat evolusi itu sendiri?
(Professor menggeleng kepala dan tersenyum kerana mula merasakan perbincangan ini semakin hebat)
Pelajar: Disebabkan tiada siapa pernah melihat proses evolusi itu sendiri sedang berjalan dan tidak boleh membuktikan yang ianya adalah suatu proses yang berlaku secara berterusan, adakah professor mengajar pendapat professor sahaja? Adakah professor saintis atau penceramah?
(Dewan kuliah menjadi gempar)
Pelajar: Ada tak sesiapa didalam dewan ini pernah melihat otak professor?
(Pelajar lain tertawa)
Pelajar: Ada tak sesiapa yang perasan akan otak professor itu? Rasainya, menghidunya? Saya pasti tiada siapa yang pernah berbuat demikian… jadi berdasarkan kepada pemerhatian, pada kajian, pada suatu yang boleh didemonstrasikan, sains menyatakan yang otak professor tidak wujud. Maaf saya katakan, bagaimana kami semua boleh percayakan kuliah2 professor selama ini?
(Seluruh dewan menjadi senyap.. Professor merenung lama kepada pelajar tersebut)
Prof: Saya rasa kamu semua hanya perlu percayakan kepadanya.
Pelajar: Itulah dia professor, hubungan antara manusia dan Tuhan adalah kepercayaan dan keimanannya dan itulah yang membuatkan kita dan seluruh alam ini hidup dan berfungsi sepertinya.
Monday, January 4, 2010
Think about this
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?,
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart...
if you don't, you might break theirs.
Have u ever decided not to become a couple because....
you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that person?
Your heart decides whom it likes and whom it doesn't.
You can't tell your heart what to do.
It does it on its own........
when you least suspect it,
or even when you don't want it to.
Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had,
but that other person was too afraid to let you?
Too many of us stay walled up because we are too afraid to care too much.....
form fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Have you ever denied your feelings for someone
because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?
We tell lies when we are afraid...
afraid of what we don't know,
afraid of what others will think,
afraid of what will be found out about us.
But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger.
Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have done,
or could have had.
* What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there?
*What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow
and you never got to tell them how you felt?
(even if it is that you don't care anymore)
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
*What would you do if you never got the chance to say ........
I am friends with all of my family and they know I love them?
People live, but people die.
I want to tell you that.....
you are a friend.
If you died tomorrow (God Forbid)
You would be in my heart.
Would I be in yours?
If you care about me as much as I care about you
you will send this back
We might be best friends one year,
pretty good friends the next year,
don't talk that often the next, and
don't want to talk at all the year after that.
So, I just wanted to say........
even if I never talk to you again in my life,
you are special to me and
you have made a difference in my life,
I look up to you, respect you, truly cherish you ,
most of all I CARE about friends
Send this to all your friends,
no matter how often you talk, or how close you are,
and send it to the person who sent it to you.
Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them,
and tell new friends you never will.
Remember,
everyone needs a friend someday you might feel like you have NO FRIENDS at all,
just remember this e-mail ....
and take comfort in knowing somebody out there cares about you and always will..
I care about YOU !!
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?,
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart...
if you don't, you might break theirs.
Have u ever decided not to become a couple because....
you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that person?
Your heart decides whom it likes and whom it doesn't.
You can't tell your heart what to do.
It does it on its own........
when you least suspect it,
or even when you don't want it to.
Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had,
but that other person was too afraid to let you?
Too many of us stay walled up because we are too afraid to care too much.....
form fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Have you ever denied your feelings for someone
because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?
We tell lies when we are afraid...
afraid of what we don't know,
afraid of what others will think,
afraid of what will be found out about us.
But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger.
Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have done,
or could have had.
* What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there?
*What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow
and you never got to tell them how you felt?
(even if it is that you don't care anymore)
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
*What would you do if you never got the chance to say ........
I am friends with all of my family and they know I love them?
People live, but people die.
I want to tell you that.....
you are a friend.
If you died tomorrow (God Forbid)
You would be in my heart.
Would I be in yours?
If you care about me as much as I care about you
you will send this back
We might be best friends one year,
pretty good friends the next year,
don't talk that often the next, and
don't want to talk at all the year after that.
So, I just wanted to say........
even if I never talk to you again in my life,
you are special to me and
you have made a difference in my life,
I look up to you, respect you, truly cherish you ,
most of all I CARE about friends
Send this to all your friends,
no matter how often you talk, or how close you are,
and send it to the person who sent it to you.
Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them,
and tell new friends you never will.
Remember,
everyone needs a friend someday you might feel like you have NO FRIENDS at all,
just remember this e-mail ....
and take comfort in knowing somebody out there cares about you and always will..
I care about YOU !!
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